Practices

You cannot talk yourself out of a state you are not in yet. Anything you want to have available when you are angry has to be practised, not merely understood.

Reading about a technique and having it in your hands with a hot face are two different things. So rehearse while you are calm and it feels a bit…

What changes things is what you actually rehearse. Advice you agreed with does very little on its own.

So take one thing and repeat it rather than collecting ten good ideas. One breathing practice, one line to say, one route out of the room. Repeated…

No medicine installs a skill. Staying steady when you are provoked is closer to a language you practise than to something anyone can prescribe you.

Medication can settle sleep, mood or attention, and that can be what makes practice possible in the first place. The response you actually want,…

Hours in a room do not do the work on their own. If you are counting sessions towards a total, the count will run out and leave you roughly where you started.

This bites hardest when the attendance was ordered rather than chosen. A better question at the end of each week is what you practised and what…

Sleeping until the middle of the afternoon, day after day, is usually not rest. It is closer to the body shutting down, and it tends to leave you flatter rather than restored.

The tell is how you feel on waking: real rest gives something back, while shutdown leaves the day already gone and you no better for it. Nudging the…

If you are going to try a mindfulness course, give it the full eight weeks before deciding. Expect a real but moderate change rather than a different life.

Courses of this length help a good number of people and do very little for others, which is worth knowing at the start so that being in the second…

Attention problems often travel with anxiety or low mood, and those two eat working memory as well. Settling that layer can make everything else look quite different.

If you are anxious most of the day you will lose track of things, forget what you came into the room for and struggle to hold a plan, whether or not…

It does get better, but not by waiting for time to pass. The improvement comes from the walking, and the walking is small and unremarkable.

Every rep you did today changes almost nothing you can feel, which is the honest and irritating truth of it. Progress here shows up over months and…

This started as a way to stop yourself snapping, and it will do that. It also happens to be a way of noticing your whole life while you are in it.

The same watching works on wanting, on worrying, on the hour you lose to your phone. Anger is just the doorway you came in through, usually because…