Practices

There is a fair worry that punch shaped exercise simply practises the punch. The test is easy: if the angry story is still running in your head, it is rehearsal.

You can check mid set. Ask what you are actually attending to. Counting, the burn in your arms and the sound of your breathing are all signs the…

Repeating back what your partner said proves you were listening. It does not prove you were touched by it, and they can tell the difference.

Reflective listening can be done perfectly and still land cold, because the words check the content while your face and body report that nothing…

Anger wants the body to do something, so let it. Breathe deeper and higher into the chest, stand up, press both palms hard into a wall, walk on the spot, push down through your feet.

Pressing against something solid gives the mobilisation an outlet with nothing broken and nobody hurt. Keep going until the charge drops a little,…

If you start shaking or trembling after a fright, or partway through a difficult conversation, that is usually your body finishing something rather than falling apart.

Animals do it visibly. A creature that has been hunted and got away will shake hard for a while and then walk off as though nothing happened. In…