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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

1 practice
Shame remove filterMy husband or wife remove filterUnder stress remove filterClear all
Who it is written for · My husband or wife
A practitioner 8Me 6Someone I care about 4My husband or wife 1
Theme · Shame
Staying regulated in conflict 20Answering bids 9Affection and touch 6Knowing your partner 5Choosing your response 5Emotions as signals 5Your nervous system 3Listening and understanding 3The moment before you snap 2Feelings and focus 2Equanimity and perspective 2What you are actually defending 1Repair after rupture 1Shame 1The fear underneath anger 1Shared spiritual life 1
When · Under stress
Coming and going 2After a row 1Any ordinary day 1Under stress 1

Shame does something cruel. It makes you want to disappear from the very person whose warmth would settle it, so if you notice yourself going quiet and pulling back, that pull is the shame talking rather than the truth about you.

Watch for the small retreats. Not answering a message, keeping an answer short, changing the subject when someone asks how you are. You do not have…

Five minutesShameEmotionally focusedQur’an 39:53

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