Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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How long you have · Five minutes
Who it is written for · My husband or wife
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Repair after rupture
Emotions as signals 19Feelings and focus 10Staying regulated in conflict 9Knowing your partner 8What anger actually is 7Rebuilding trust 7When you go numb 6Listening and understanding 5Remembering to do it 5Shared spiritual life 4Shame 3Growing empathy 3Equanimity and perspective 3Rituals of connection 3The moment before you snap 3Treatment and medication 3Your nervous system 3Systems for daily life 2Choosing your response 2Bringing the future closer 2Repair after rupture 2Practising under provocation 1What you are actually defending 1The fear underneath anger 1Use your strengths 1Affection and touch 1Your sense of time 1
Apologise for what landed, not for what you meant.
If you owe an apology today, leave out the word "if" and leave out your intentions. Name what you actually did and what it cost them. "I dismissed…
Name what set you off, then tell the older story behind why it is a trigger for you.
Rewind to an earlier time you felt the same. Sharing that story helps your partner know you.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.