Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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2 practicesHow long you have · Twenty minutes
Who it is written for · My husband or wife
Theme · Answering bids
Shared spiritual life 7Emotions as signals 6Staying regulated in conflict 5Feelings and focus 5Rituals of connection 4Repair after rupture 4Rebuilding trust 3Choosing your response 3Treatment and medication 3Knowing your partner 3Get started 2What ADHD actually is 2Answering bids 2Bringing the future closer 1Your sense of time 1Shame 1The moment before you snap 1What anger actually is 1Your nervous system 1Remembering to do it 1Systems for daily life 1
Once today, ask about a stress from outside the two of you, then just listen. No fixing.
Twenty minutes on their side. Your only job is to understand and be on their team.
Once a day, take turns unloading the day's outside stress while the other just listens and supports, not fixes.
Ten minutes each on stress from beyond the relationship. The listener gives empathy, not solutions.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.