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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Remembering to do it remove filterA practitioner remove filterAfter a row remove filterClear all
How long you have
Five minutes 2Twenty minutes 1
Who it is written for · A practitioner
Me 4My husband or wife 4Someone I care about 4A practitioner 3
On your own, or with someone
Involves someone else 2Both of us together 1
Theme · Remembering to do it
What anger actually is 21Equanimity and perspective 14The fear underneath anger 12Feelings and focus 11Emotions as signals 9Cool the body first 9Choosing your response 7Practising under provocation 6Screens and attention 6The moment before you snap 6Tolerate distress 4Treatment and medication 4Remembering to do it 3Bringing the future closer 3When you go numb 3When anger turns to harm 3Shame and stigma 3What ADHD actually is 3Shame 2Getting assessed and diagnosed 2Making it stick 2Growing empathy 2The cost of avoiding 2Your nervous system 2Moving your body 1Grounding and settling 1Facing it a step at a time 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Breaking the worry loop 1What you are actually defending 1Use your strengths 1Your sense of time 1Righteous anger and perfectionism 1
When · After a row
Any ordinary day 17After a row 3Under stress 1In a change 1

Saying it is done when it is not is a common next step, and it makes more sense than it looks. The lie is rarely about the parcel, it is a way out of the look on somebody's face.

It also makes everything worse, because being found out turns a forgotten task into a trust problem, and that is a much longer repair. If this is…

Five minutesRemembering to do itADHD skillsQur’an 2:283

You will still forget things. What decides how much damage a missed task does is usually the ten minutes after you notice, not the miss itself.

Two moves reliably make it worse: sinking into shame until you cannot look at the person, and defending yourself as though nothing had been dropped.…

Five minutesRemembering to do itADHD skillsQur’an 18:24

The more one person checks up, the more the other hides, and the more they hide the more the checking looks justified. Both are responding reasonably to the last move and nobody is having a good time.

Getting out of it usually means the monitoring comes down first, which feels like the wrong direction to whoever is doing the monitoring. A workable…

Twenty minutesRemembering to do itADHD skillsQur’an 3:159

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