Practices

Two stretches of childhood carry most of this: the first years of school, and the middle years around the move to secondary. Knowing that lets you prepare instead of react.

The early wobble is usually about being apart from home for a long day for the first time. The later one lands when peer opinion becomes the loudest…

Every adjustment should arrive with the date you will start reducing it. Written down at the beginning, while everyone is still reasonable.

Supports meant as a bridge have a way of becoming the new normal, and by the spring nobody remembers they were temporary. Decide at the outset what…

The same breathing serves different jobs at different times. Early on it may be there to help you sleep and stay contained. Later it may be there to help you feel more, not less.

This is worth knowing so you do not judge yourself for finding a practice useful now that was useless six months ago, or the other way round. In the…

Write it up before you leave. One salesman, knowing full well he will not remember the visit an hour later, does his notes in the car with the engine still off.

The strength of it is that the trigger is fixed and physical. Sitting down in the car is the cue, and the notes happen before the key turns. No…

Whatever the record is, do it the same day, every time. The salesman writes his notes in the car outside the client's office. Not that evening, not on Friday.

No exceptions is the part doing the work. One skipped day teaches you that skipping is survivable, and 'it worked out fine that once' is the thought…

If stopping has been harder for you than it seems to be for other people, that is worth taking seriously rather than reading as a flaw in your character.

Some people are working against more than a habit. The thing they are giving up was quietly doing a job for them, holding attention steady or keeping…

If everything came apart the moment school ended, it may be that the structure was never yours. It belonged to the timetable, and the timetable stopped.

School decides when you get up, what happens next and when the work is due, so nobody ever finds out whether the person can build a week from…

Where there is a choice, take the class that meets at a fixed hour with other people in the room. Watch it whenever you like turns into never watched more often than anyone admits.

A live class hands you three things for nothing: a time, other people present, and someone who notices you are missing. A recorded course strips all…

An ADHD diagnosis usually arrives with two extra words attached: which presentation it is, and how severe. Both are descriptions of what gets in your way, not a grade you were awarded.

Inattentive, hyperactive and impulsive, or the two together, and then mild, moderate or severe. Mild means you met the threshold and the effect on…

Teenage memories of this often come with a sting: the year you worked out how much longer everything took you than it seemed to take everybody else.

That is usually why adolescence is the period people can describe in detail. The work got harder, the scaffolding of primary school fell away, and…

There is a difference between low mood you have carried all your life and low mood that grew out of years of working twice as hard for half the result. Both are real, and they need treating in a different order.

If the second describes you, the picture often lifts a fair way once the attention difficulties are being managed and the daily experience of falling…

Home DNA tests turn up relatives nobody expected. If someone is thinking of taking one to fill in a blank family history, it is worth saying out loud that it may hand them more than they asked for.

People find half siblings. Sometimes they find that the story they were told about their birth was not the story. That is a great deal to receive by…

This goes the way learning a bicycle went. You could not, then you could but only with all of your attention, then one day you rode without thinking about it. The middle bit is the ugly bit.

In that middle phase the skill works but it costs you everything to use, and it looks clumsy from the outside. That is where most people decide it is…

Some people get all the way to university before anything is named, then meet eighty pages of reading a night and cannot do it. Nothing broke that night. The volume simply outgrew a way of coping that had held for years.

The history reads the same way every time afterwards: always needed longer, avoided reading aloud, dreaded timed tests, stomach trouble in exam…

Stopping suddenly can bring lethargy, nausea, irritability and headache within a few days. That is discontinuation, not the illness coming back.

Timing is the giveaway. Withdrawal starts within days of the last dose and often has a particular feel to it: dizziness, odd electrical zaps, a…

Discontinuation gets mistaken for relapse constantly, by clients and by clinicians. The mistake runs in both directions and both directions cost something.

Read withdrawal as relapse and a person concludes they will need the tablet for life, when what they needed was a slower taper. Read a real relapse…

Never come off an antidepressant on your own. The taper belongs to the prescriber, and for some drugs it needs to be slower and longer than people expect.

The moment to raise this is before anybody acts, not afterwards. If a client is feeling better and starting to think about stopping, that thought is…

Some antidepressants take weeks to build up and weeks to clear, so both the improvement and the aftermath run on a slower clock than you would expect.

Fluoxetine is the usual example. It and the substance it turns into stay around a long time, which means a fair trial is counted in weeks and…

Raising a dose does not simply raise the benefit. It raises everything the drug does, including the parts nobody was asking for.

As the amount climbs, a medicine begins touching things it barely touched before, which is why new side effects can appear at a higher dose of…

When you are weighing up whether a teenager is ready for something, it helps to think in two thirds. A fifteen year old may be handling responsibility more like a twelve or thirteen year old.

This is not an insult and it should never be delivered as one. It is a way of explaining why a privilege arrives later here than for their friends,…