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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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183 practices
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Area
Anger 80Your marriage 54Focus, starting, and ADHD 28Low mood and hard feelings 14Your body 4Worry and anxiety 2Yourself and your limits 1
How long you have
A minute 65Five minutes 98Twenty minutes 20
Who it is written for · Me
Me 183A practitioner 148My husband or wife 101Someone I care about 98
Where you are right now
Coping, mostly 115Struggling right now 68
On your own, or with someone
On my own 104Involves someone else 54Both of us together 25
Theme
Staying regulated in conflict 28What anger actually is 20Repair after rupture 15Equanimity and perspective 13The fear underneath anger 12Feelings and focus 11Rebuilding trust 9Cool the body first 8Choosing your response 7The moment before you snap 7Emotions as signals 7Practising under provocation 6Tolerate distress 4Remembering to do it 4Shame and stigma 3What you are actually defending 2Your nervous system 2Making it stick 2What ADHD actually is 2Bringing the future closer 2Treatment and medication 2Shame 2Your sense of time 2Breaking the worry loop 1Facing it a step at a time 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1When anger turns to harm 1Fondness and admiration 1Grounding and settling 1Screens and attention 1Moving your body 1When you go numb 1Use your strengths 1Validate yourself and others 1Affection and touch 1Growing empathy 1
Approach
Core 57Emotionally focused 29ADHD skills 25Gottman 23CBT 15Mindfulness 15Body based 10DBT skills 4Medical and treatment 3Trauma informed 2
When · After a row
Any ordinary day 1619Under stress 474After a row 183In a change 92Coming and going 69When apart 12Something good 6

Sourness, shutting down, snapping at everyone: these are as often worry as they are attitude. The person is not giving you a hard time, they are having one.

This matters because of what happens next. Read it as rudeness and the house responds with punishment, which adds to the load that produced the…

Five minutesBreaking the worry loopCBTQur’an 41:36

Freezing is not something you decided on. It is what was left once the other options had gone.

A mouse does not try to charm a cat. It runs, and if it is caught it goes limp, and none of that is a considered plan. People ask themselves for…

A minuteYour nervous systemBody basedQur’an 91:7

If you start shaking or trembling after a fright, or partway through a difficult conversation, that is usually your body finishing something rather than falling apart.

Animals do it visibly. A creature that has been hunted and got away will shake hard for a while and then walk off as though nothing happened. In…

Five minutesYour nervous systemBody basedQur’an 94:3

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