Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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7 practices

Affection and touch Me Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have

A minute 6 Five minutes 1

Who it is written for · Me

Me 7 My husband or wife 7

On your own, or with someone

Involves someone else 6 On my own 1

Theme · Affection and touch

Medication and how it works 132Your nervous system 85 Systems for daily life 80 Get started 68 Food, caffeine and fuel 53 Your sense of time 52 The moment before you snap 49 Moving your body 48 What anger actually is 48 Choosing your response 45 Bringing the future closer 45 Exercise, food and other supports 41 Equanimity and perspective 36 Screens and attention 35 Grounding and settling 33 What ADHD actually is 33 Touch and bodywork 31 The fear underneath anger 31 Practising under provocation 30 Getting assessed and diagnosed 30 Growing empathy 28 Treatment and medication 28 Feelings and focus 28 When everything feels flat 27 Structure and routine 27 Being seen and judged 24 Breathing 23 Cool the body first 23 Shame and stigma 22 Making it stick 21 Remembering to do it 20 Knowing your partner 20 Treatment and medication 18 What worry does 17 When you use something to cope 17 Shared spiritual life 16 Breaking the worry loop 15 Feeling from the inside 15 Fondness and admiration 14 Facing it a step at a time 13 What you are actually defending 13 Answering bids 12 Tolerate distress 11 Staying regulated in conflict 11 Listening and understanding 10 Obsessions and compulsions 10 Righteous anger and perfectionism 10 Posture and how you carry yourself 9 Gratitude 9 Use your strengths 8 Self-compassion 8 Emotions as signals 8 Affection and touch 7 Rituals of connection 7 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 Question the thought 6 Rebuilding trust 5 Shame 5 Living with uncertainty 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Rest and pacing 3 Repair after rupture 3 When you go numb 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 The cost of avoiding 3 Meaning after harm 2 Keep the bond 2 Get it out of your head 2 Act on your values 2 Find meaning 2 When anger turns to harm 2 Work with your brain 2 Face it gently 2 Your window of tolerance 1 Listen to the body 1 Panic and the body 1 Safety and grounding 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Reading, numbers and learning differences 1

Approach

Core 4 Emotionally focused 2 Gottman 1

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 7 Under stress 6 Coming and going 1 After a row 1

Give your spouse one embrace today that lasts longer than usual, until you both soften.

A hug held past the polite second. Long enough for the shoulders to drop.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 2:187

Offer your spouse warm touch today with nothing asked in return.

A hand on the shoulder, a passing squeeze. Contact that is only kindness, not a request.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 2:187

Touch them once today with nothing else attached.

A hand on the shoulder as you pass. Sitting close on the sofa. Reaching for their hand while you talk about nothing. No agenda, no next step. Just…

A minuteAffection and touchCoreQur’an 30:21

Hold their hand while you talk about something completely ordinary.

Touch with no request attached is a language of safety all its own.

A minuteAffection and touchCoreQur’an 30:21

Make them laugh once today, on purpose.

Shared lightness is not frivolous; it is a thread that keeps two people close.

A minuteAffection and touchCoreQur’an 2:187

Kiss, hold, and touch each other daily, at partings, reunions, and before bed. Learn the touch your partner likes.

Affection is not only for special moments. Small, regular touch keeps warmth and closeness alive.

A minuteAffection and touchGottmanQur’an 30:21

Do one small, slightly ridiculous thing together.

A shared bit of play refreshes a couple more than another serious conversation can.

Five minutesAffection and touchCoreQur’an 2:187

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