Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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How long you have
Who it is written for · Me
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Food, caffeine and fuel
Medication and how it works 132Your nervous system 85Systems for daily life 80Get started 68Food, caffeine and fuel 53Your sense of time 52The moment before you snap 49Moving your body 48What anger actually is 48Bringing the future closer 45Choosing your response 45Exercise, food and other supports 41Equanimity and perspective 36Screens and attention 35What ADHD actually is 33Grounding and settling 33The fear underneath anger 31Touch and bodywork 31Practising under provocation 30Getting assessed and diagnosed 30Growing empathy 28Feelings and focus 28Treatment and medication 28When everything feels flat 27Structure and routine 27Being seen and judged 24Cool the body first 23Breathing 23Shame and stigma 22Making it stick 21Remembering to do it 20Knowing your partner 20Treatment and medication 18What worry does 17When you use something to cope 17Shared spiritual life 16Feeling from the inside 15Breaking the worry loop 15Fondness and admiration 14Facing it a step at a time 13What you are actually defending 13Answering bids 12Staying regulated in conflict 11Tolerate distress 11Listening and understanding 10Obsessions and compulsions 10Righteous anger and perfectionism 10Gratitude 9Posture and how you carry yourself 9Use your strengths 8Emotions as signals 8Self-compassion 8Rituals of connection 7Affection and touch 7Anger, alcohol and the body 6Question the thought 6Shame 5Rebuilding trust 5Your worth is not conditional 3Rest and pacing 3Repair after rupture 3The cost of avoiding 3When you go numb 3Notice the pattern and flex 3Living with uncertainty 3Work with your brain 2Meaning after harm 2Act on your values 2Keep the bond 2Get it out of your head 2Find meaning 2Face it gently 2When anger turns to harm 2Listen to the body 1Care for yourself in loss 1Reading, numbers and learning differences 1Panic and the body 1Your window of tolerance 1Safety and grounding 1
When · Any ordinary day

Allergies turn up more often alongside ADHD than chance would predict. Worth mentioning your allergy history at an assessment even when nobody asks, since the two seem to travel together.

The likeliest explanation is not that one causes the other. It is that some of the same underlying wiring makes both more likely in the same person.…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 80:24

Some foods are formulated to be hard to stop eating. That is a design brief rather than a flaw in you, and it goes some way to explaining why one particular snack is the one you think about at eleven at night.

Knowing this moves the fight somewhere you can win it. Willpower at the moment of craving is a poor bet, and a decision made in the shop is a much…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:172

Here is a question that costs nothing: has anyone in your family been told their vitamin D was low? It runs in families through genes, skin tone, where you live and how much time anyone spends outside.

The clinician telling this story found out only afterwards that his mother, father and brother had all been low. Nobody had mentioned it, because it…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 15:22

Even where a herb has good evidence behind it, that evidence belongs to the plant and not to the bottle in your hand. Testing keeps turning up products that do not contain what the label says.

This part of the argument does not depend on whether herbal remedies work. You could accept every claim made for a plant and still be left with the…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 80:24

Own brand products from large retailers were among the worst performers in these tests. A big name on the packet is not a quality check, however much it feels like one.

Own label goods are usually made under contract on thin margins with no independent verification of what comes out the other end. So the reassurance…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:66

People often turn to herbal remedies hoping to avoid side effects. Plants are chemistry too, and some of them interact with prescribed medication in ways that matter.

A plant extract is not one substance, it is a mixture of many, which gives it more places to interact rather than fewer. Origin has nothing to do…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:69

Around seven in ten people who use herbal products never mention it to their doctor. Not out of secrecy, mostly because a tea or a gummy does not feel like it belongs on a list of medications.

The useful move is to answer a wider question than the one you were asked. When someone asks what medication you take, tell them what else you take…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 106:4

Your gut is not just plumbing. It makes many of the same chemicals your brain runs on and it is in constant conversation with your nervous system, which is part of why a bad stretch of digestion and a low mood so often turn up together.

If your stomach has been unsettled for weeks and your mood has slid over the same weeks, you do not have to work out which one is the real problem.…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:69

Put a rubber band round your water bottle for each refill you want to get through today, and slide one off each time you finish it. Nothing to remember, nothing to buy, and you can see where you are at a glance.

Tracking anything in your head is hard when your head is already full, and harder still when concentration is one of the things that has taken a hit.…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:10

Where ADHD and disordered eating meet, the pattern is more often bingeing, or bingeing and purging, than strict restriction. Restriction tends to travel with over-control, while bingeing travels with impulse and reward seeking.

This matters because the questions asked at assessment are usually the restriction ones, so a binge pattern can sit unnoticed for years. If you…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 7:32

Most claims about food and behaviour rest on weak studies. The ones worth taking seriously give each person both the real thing and a dummy at different times, with nobody knowing which is which, so that hope and expectation cannot do the work.

The food colouring trials are the standard example. Around 150 children each received drinks containing a preservative plus one of two dye mixes, or…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 25:67

The same brand of sweets is often made with plant based colours in one country and artificial ones in another. If a company can make it without the dyes elsewhere, the dyes are not essential to the food.

Nine artificial colours are approved in the US, and the volume approved for use rose roughly fivefold between 1950 and 2012. One of them, Red No. 3,…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:67

Skin prick and IgE blood tests find real allergies. The IgG food sensitivity panels sold direct to families have not been shown to measure sensitivity at all, and they tend to come back with a long list of foods to avoid.

IgG antibodies mostly show that you have eaten something, not that it harms you, which is why the results look alarming and change so little when…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 25:67

A real food allergy shows itself on the body: a rash, a swollen or inflamed throat, something you can see. Behaviour on its own does not identify one, although behaviour often improves once a genuine allergy is dealt with.

One child's attention and mood went back to her usual level once berries came out of her diet, and what made that findable was the rash and the sore…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 55:11

The studies linking pesticide levels to ADHD are tangled up with income, since families least able to buy organic differ in plenty of other ways too. If organic food is affordable for you, fine. If it is not, you are not failing your child.

In one study of 1,140 children, 94% had detectable pesticide in their urine, and ADHD was about twice as common among those with higher…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 36:35

Most eating advice quietly assumes a budget. Fresh food is expensive and does not keep, so a household relying on food assistance ends up buying what lasts, and what lasts comes in tins and packets.

If money is the constraint, say it out loud rather than nodding along and then failing quietly at home. The advice can be rebuilt around what is…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:184

Put an actual number on it: how many coffees, teas, energy drinks and colas in a normal day. Without that number, your sleep problems, your anxiety and how well a medication is working are all being read against an unknown.

People underestimate this, partly because it feels embarrassing and partly because a large takeaway cup is often two or three servings. Count across…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 6:99

Stimulants sharpen focus in almost anyone, so responding well to one does not confirm you have ADHD. The diagnosis comes from your history and how you function, not from a trial of tablets.

This cuts both ways. Someone can be handed a diagnosis on the strength of a good response, and someone else can be doubted because their response was…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 20:81

Food and movement are powerful, and hardly anyone keeps them up as prescribed. So the question is not what works best on paper. It is what you will still be doing in six weeks.

Roughly a third of people follow a prescription exactly as it is written, and keeping to a diet or an activity plan goes worse than that. Which means…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:185

Pick one small change and leave the rest alone. A full overhaul asks the most of you at the point when you have the least to give, and it usually collapses in the second week.

One change, small enough to be almost boring, kept for a month. Then another. It feels slow while you are in it, and it is the version that tends to…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:114

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