Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

5 practices
How long you have
Who it is written for · Me
Where you are right now
Theme · Food, caffeine and fuel
The moment before you snap 32Cool the body first 30Grounding and settling 29Choosing your response 28Touch and bodywork 22Staying regulated in conflict 20Your nervous system 19What anger actually is 18The fear underneath anger 15Equanimity and perspective 15Feelings and focus 12Tolerate distress 11Breathing 10Answering bids 9Systems for daily life 9Practising under provocation 8Feeling from the inside 8Moving your body 8Medication and how it works 7What worry does 7Making it stick 6Bringing the future closer 6Affection and touch 6Shame 6Breaking the worry loop 6When everything feels flat 5Food, caffeine and fuel 5Knowing your partner 5Question the thought 5Treatment and medication 5What you are actually defending 5Growing empathy 4Get started 4Getting assessed and diagnosed 4Shame and stigma 4Letting it out safely 4Posture and how you carry yourself 4Emotions as signals 4Facing it a step at a time 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3Safety and grounding 3Screens and attention 3Exercise, food and other supports 3Obsessions and compulsions 3Name what you feel 3Working with anger 3Listening and understanding 3Let the wave come 3Calm the body 3Being seen and judged 3The cost of avoiding 3When anger turns to harm 2Patience and trust 2Your sense of time 2Self-compassion 2When you use something to cope 2Rebuild trust 2Ride the urge 2Meaning after harm 2Structure and routine 1Rest and pacing 1Repair after rupture 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Treatment and medication 1What ADHD actually is 1Validate yourself and others 1Act on your values 1Your window of tolerance 1Care for yourself in loss 1Remembering to do it 1Listen to the body 1Panic and the body 1Shared spiritual life 1
When · Under stress

The pull towards bread, pasta and biscuits when you are low is not simply greed. Carbohydrate makes it easier for the brain to get hold of the raw material it needs for serotonin, so it gives a real if short lived lift.

Calling it self medication instead of a failure of character changes what you do next. You stop trying to out-discipline the craving and start asking…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 52:19

When you find yourself reaching for something sweet again, try asking what the reaching is doing for you instead of telling yourself off. Comfort, a small rebellion, a way to stay awake: the answer usually points somewhere useful.

Talk about being good or bad closes the conversation down. Curiosity keeps it open, and it tends to surface the actual job the food is doing, which…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:173

When digestion goes wrong there are usually two things to look at rather than one: something you are eating that does not suit you, and a body too braced to digest properly. Checking only one door tends to leave you stuck.

Digestion mostly happens when your body believes it is safe. If you eat every meal with your shoulders up round your ears, that alone can show up as…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 106:4

Irritable bowel symptoms turn up more often in people with ADHD, and they tend to track stress. If your stomach is at its worst in the weeks when everything else is at its worst, that is information rather than coincidence.

Two things help more often than they get suggested. Cutting caffeine frequently settles symptoms on its own, since it speeds the gut up and raises…

Twenty minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 106:4

Stress unsettles the gut and an unsettled gut drags on mood, so the two keep each other going. The good news buried in that is you can step in from either end.

You do not have to establish which came first. Easing the pressure on your nervous system helps digestion, steadying what you eat helps mood, and…

Twenty minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:168

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