Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

3 practices
How long you have
Who it is written for · Me
Theme · Obsessions and compulsions
The moment before you snap 32Cool the body first 30Grounding and settling 29Choosing your response 28Touch and bodywork 22Staying regulated in conflict 20Your nervous system 19What anger actually is 18Equanimity and perspective 15The fear underneath anger 15Feelings and focus 12Tolerate distress 11Breathing 10Systems for daily life 9Answering bids 9Moving your body 8Feeling from the inside 8Practising under provocation 8Medication and how it works 7What worry does 7Breaking the worry loop 6Making it stick 6Affection and touch 6Bringing the future closer 6Shame 6Knowing your partner 5What you are actually defending 5Treatment and medication 5Question the thought 5When everything feels flat 5Food, caffeine and fuel 5Get started 4Letting it out safely 4Emotions as signals 4Shame and stigma 4Growing empathy 4Getting assessed and diagnosed 4Posture and how you carry yourself 4Screens and attention 3The cost of avoiding 3Being seen and judged 3Calm the body 3Facing it a step at a time 3Let the wave come 3Listening and understanding 3Name what you feel 3Obsessions and compulsions 3Exercise, food and other supports 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3Safety and grounding 3Working with anger 3Patience and trust 2Ride the urge 2Meaning after harm 2Your sense of time 2When you use something to cope 2When anger turns to harm 2Self-compassion 2Rebuild trust 2Remembering to do it 1Panic and the body 1Listen to the body 1Care for yourself in loss 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Treatment and medication 1Structure and routine 1Validate yourself and others 1What ADHD actually is 1Shared spiritual life 1Your window of tolerance 1Act on your values 1Rest and pacing 1Repair after rupture 1
When · Under stress

Try not to talk the worry through in detail, even with someone kind. Going over the specifics feels like sorting it out, and it is closer to watering it.

Mental review and asking for reassurance are the same move in different clothes. Both give a short drop in distress and a stronger pull next time.…

A minuteObsessions and compulsionsCBTQur’an 13:28

Fears of doing something terrible, of hurting an animal or a person, are not treated by moving closer to the act. Nobody should be walking you up a ladder towards the thing you are terrified of doing.

These thoughts sit at the far end from wanting. They horrify you, which is exactly why they stick to you. The work goes on what you have decided the…

Five minutesObsessions and compulsionsCBTQur’an 33:5

If you are stuck on whether having a thought makes you a bad person, that question is a symptom and not a case waiting to be settled. Name it as scrupulosity and let it stand unanswered.

Debating your moral standing is where this gets its fuel, and every reassurance you win, from a friend, an imam, a search at midnight, buys less time…

Five minutesObsessions and compulsionsCBTQur’an 39:53

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