Practices

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Theme · Righteous anger and perfectionism

Systems for daily life 38 Medication and how it works 26 Moving your body 24 Get started 17 Your nervous system 14 Feelings and focus 14 What ADHD actually is 13 Treatment and medication 12 Food, caffeine and fuel 11 Your sense of time 10 What anger actually is 9 Screens and attention 9 Bringing the future closer 9 Getting assessed and diagnosed 8 The moment before you snap 8 Shared spiritual life 7 The fear underneath anger 6 Cool the body first 6 Tolerate distress 6 Grounding and settling 6 Touch and bodywork 6 Shame 5 Emotions as signals 5 When you use something to cope 5 Staying regulated in conflict 5 Exercise, food and other supports 5 Breathing 5 Breaking the worry loop 5 Facing it a step at a time 5 Choosing your response 4 Being seen and judged 4 Rituals of connection 4 Growing empathy 4 Remembering to do it 4 Repair after rupture 4 Rebuilding trust 3 Anger, alcohol and the body 3 The cost of avoiding 3 Equanimity and perspective 3 Knowing your partner 3 When everything feels flat 3 Practising under provocation 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 3 Shame and stigma 3 Use your strengths 3 What worry does 3 When anger turns to harm 2 Making it stick 2 Answering bids 2 Feeling from the inside 2 Letting it out safely 2 Posture and how you carry yourself 2 Structure and routine 2 Keep the bond 1 Living with uncertainty 1 Treatment and medication 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 What you are actually defending 1 Safety and grounding 1 Rest and pacing 1 Question the thought 1 Obsessions and compulsions 1 Listen to the body 1

If you carry a firm picture of how the world is supposed to work, the world will break it several times a day. No coping skill outpaces a supply of grievance that never runs out.

This is not a case for caring less about fairness. It is about telling apart an injustice you could act on from the general refusal of life to be…

Twenty minutesRighteous anger and perfectionismCoreQur’an 3:104

Anger runs on the word should, and should is a word about debt. Write out what you believe this person owes you, then mark which of those they ever actually agreed to.

Most lists come out in two parts. There are the real agreements, said out loud and accepted, and there are the ones you assumed any decent person…

Twenty minutesRighteous anger and perfectionismCoreQur’an 4:58

Anger sticks around because it works, at least in the short run. Before trying to put it down, be honest about what it has been buying you.

Usually it is some form of leverage: people move faster, back down, stop asking. Sometimes it is plainer than that, a way to feel like something…

Twenty minutesRighteous anger and perfectionismCoreQur’an 9:105

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