Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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25 practices
How long you have
Who it is written for · Me
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Treatment and medication
Medication and how it works 155Your nervous system 113Systems for daily life 103What anger actually is 89The moment before you snap 88Choosing your response 81Get started 73Grounding and settling 67Equanimity and perspective 66Moving your body 63Cool the body first 61Staying regulated in conflict 60Food, caffeine and fuel 59Feelings and focus 58The fear underneath anger 58Bringing the future closer 58Your sense of time 58Touch and bodywork 56Getting assessed and diagnosed 50What ADHD actually is 48Exercise, food and other supports 46Practising under provocation 46When everything feels flat 44Treatment and medication 42Screens and attention 40Breathing 34Growing empathy 34Shame and stigma 30Being seen and judged 30Making it stick 30Structure and routine 28Remembering to do it 26Tolerate distress 26Knowing your partner 25Treatment and medication 25What worry does 25Answering bids 24Breaking the worry loop 23What you are actually defending 23Feeling from the inside 23When you use something to cope 22Emotions as signals 22Repair after rupture 19Facing it a step at a time 18Shared spiritual life 17Rebuilding trust 17Affection and touch 15Fondness and admiration 15Obsessions and compulsions 14Rituals of connection 13Posture and how you carry yourself 13Righteous anger and perfectionism 13Listening and understanding 13Shame 13Self-compassion 12Question the thought 11Use your strengths 10Gratitude 9Anger, alcohol and the body 8The cost of avoiding 7Living with uncertainty 5When anger turns to harm 5Rest and pacing 5When you go numb 5Letting it out safely 4Safety and grounding 4Meaning after harm 4Act on your values 3Panic and the body 3Notice the pattern and flex 3Name what you feel 3Working with anger 3Your worth is not conditional 3Let the wave come 3Calm the body 3Face it gently 2Your window of tolerance 2Listen to the body 2Ride the urge 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Care for yourself in loss 2Get it out of your head 2Keep the bond 2Hold a boundary 2Validate yourself and others 2Ask and say no well 2Help someone grieving 2Find meaning 2Patience and trust 2Work with your brain 2
When

The number worth watching is not the dose but the direction. A dose that keeps creeping upward says something that a steady one does not.

You are often the person who sees this, because you hear about it in passing across months while the prescriber sees someone twice a year. Note it…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 42:38

Before choosing what to try, work out which kind of anxiety you are dealing with. What settles a sudden surge and what wears down months of low grade worry are rarely the same thing.

For the surging kind, the things that help act fast and work on the body. For the worrying kind, they are slower and work on how the days are built:…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 38:41

The first week or so on one of these can feel worse rather than better: jittery, restless, sleeping badly. For most people it settles within a fortnight, and it is a known part of starting rather than a sign of harm.

Untold, a person quite reasonably concludes the medicine is making them ill and stops. Told beforehand, the same week becomes something to sit out,…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 94:5

Some anxiety medicines have no fast setting at all. They work on the receiving side of the system and take two to four weeks to show anything, so taking one in a bad moment does nothing and proves nothing.

For the right person the trade is a good one: nothing to become dependent on, no withdrawal, no dangerous mixing with alcohol, and nothing to reach…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:69

Take a few photographs of your bedroom, then look at them later and circle whatever has to change or go. Seeing the room in a picture shows you things you stopped noticing years ago while standing in it.

The list is usually short and dull: the light on a charger, the pile of unfinished things on the chair, the television, the clock you keep checking.…

Twenty minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 13:11

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