Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

23 practices

What you are actually defending Me Clear all

How long you have

A minute 6 Five minutes 16 Twenty minutes 1

Who it is written for · Me

Me 23 A practitioner 22 Someone I care about 22 My husband or wife 2

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 19 Struggling right now 3 Getting ready for something 1

On your own, or with someone

On my own 21 Involves someone else 2

Theme · What you are actually defending

Medication and how it works 155Your nervous system 113Systems for daily life 103What anger actually is 89 The moment before you snap 88 Choosing your response 81 Get started 73 Grounding and settling 67 Equanimity and perspective 66 Moving your body 63 Cool the body first 61 Staying regulated in conflict 60 Food, caffeine and fuel 59 Feelings and focus 58 The fear underneath anger 58 Bringing the future closer 58 Your sense of time 58 Touch and bodywork 56 Getting assessed and diagnosed 50 What ADHD actually is 48 Practising under provocation 46 Exercise, food and other supports 46 When everything feels flat 44 Treatment and medication 42 Screens and attention 40 Breathing 34 Growing empathy 34 Making it stick 30 Shame and stigma 30 Being seen and judged 30 Structure and routine 28 Tolerate distress 26 Remembering to do it 26 Treatment and medication 25 Knowing your partner 25 What worry does 25 Answering bids 24 Feeling from the inside 23 What you are actually defending 23 Breaking the worry loop 23 Emotions as signals 22 When you use something to cope 22 Repair after rupture 19 Facing it a step at a time 18 Shared spiritual life 17 Rebuilding trust 17 Affection and touch 15 Fondness and admiration 15 Obsessions and compulsions 14 Listening and understanding 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Rituals of connection 13 Shame 13 Posture and how you carry yourself 13 Self-compassion 12 Question the thought 11 Use your strengths 10 Gratitude 9 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 The cost of avoiding 7 Living with uncertainty 5 Rest and pacing 5 When you go numb 5 When anger turns to harm 5 Safety and grounding 4 Letting it out safely 4 Meaning after harm 4 Working with anger 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Panic and the body 3 Act on your values 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Name what you feel 3 Calm the body 3 Let the wave come 3 Face it gently 2 Patience and trust 2 Work with your brain 2 Hold a boundary 2 Keep the bond 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Ride the urge 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Listen to the body 2 Get it out of your head 2 Help someone grieving 2 Find meaning 2 Ask and say no well 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Your window of tolerance 2

Approach

Core 14 Mindfulness 9

When

Any ordinary day 13 Under stress 5 After a row 2 Something good 1 Coming and going 1 In a change 1

Understand more so that you may fear less. That line is the whole point of learning how your anger works: not cleverness, just less fear.

People with a temper are rarely persuaded by being told to calm down, and are often genuinely interested in how the machinery works. Knowing what…

Five minutesWhat you are actually defendingMindfulnessQur’an 16:90

The aim is not to work out the answer. It is to keep moving while the answer is missing, and to find that the fear does not have to run the day.

When something is unsettled, your mind hands you one job after another: replay it, check it, decide what they really meant. You can put those down…

Five minutesWhat you are actually defendingMindfulnessQur’an 3:154

A small child works out how to feel about itself by looking at its parents' faces. If that face was missing, or busy, the looking does not stop, it just moves on to teachers, coaches, friends and strangers.

It is part of why being disrespected can feel so much larger than the moment deserves. Some of that old search is still running. The work is slow and…

Twenty minutesWhat you are actually defendingCoreQur’an 50:16

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