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Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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44 practices

When everything feels flat Me Clear all

How long you have

A minute 8 Five minutes 28 Twenty minutes 3 Longer 5

Who it is written for · Me

A practitioner 54 Me 44 Someone I care about 14

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 24 Struggling right now 18 Getting ready for something 2

On your own, or with someone

On my own 39 Involves someone else 4 Both of us together 1

Theme · When everything feels flat

Medication and how it works 155Your nervous system 113Systems for daily life 103What anger actually is 89 The moment before you snap 88 Choosing your response 81 Get started 73 Grounding and settling 67 Equanimity and perspective 66 Moving your body 63 Cool the body first 61 Staying regulated in conflict 60 Food, caffeine and fuel 59 Feelings and focus 58 The fear underneath anger 58 Bringing the future closer 58 Your sense of time 58 Touch and bodywork 56 Getting assessed and diagnosed 50 What ADHD actually is 48 Practising under provocation 46 Exercise, food and other supports 46 When everything feels flat 44 Treatment and medication 42 Screens and attention 40 Growing empathy 34 Breathing 34 Shame and stigma 30 Being seen and judged 30 Making it stick 30 Structure and routine 28 Tolerate distress 26 Remembering to do it 26 What worry does 25 Knowing your partner 25 Treatment and medication 25 Answering bids 24 Feeling from the inside 23 What you are actually defending 23 Breaking the worry loop 23 When you use something to cope 22 Emotions as signals 22 Repair after rupture 19 Facing it a step at a time 18 Shared spiritual life 17 Rebuilding trust 17 Fondness and admiration 15 Affection and touch 15 Obsessions and compulsions 14 Listening and understanding 13 Posture and how you carry yourself 13 Rituals of connection 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Shame 13 Self-compassion 12 Question the thought 11 Use your strengths 10 Gratitude 9 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 The cost of avoiding 7 Living with uncertainty 5 Rest and pacing 5 When you go numb 5 When anger turns to harm 5 Letting it out safely 4 Safety and grounding 4 Meaning after harm 4 Let the wave come 3 Act on your values 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Name what you feel 3 Panic and the body 3 Working with anger 3 Calm the body 3 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Ask and say no well 2 Ride the urge 2 Patience and trust 2 Listen to the body 2 Work with your brain 2 Hold a boundary 2 Get it out of your head 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Find meaning 2 Help someone grieving 2 Keep the bond 2 Face it gently 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Care for yourself in loss 2

Approach

Medical and treatment 41 Parts work 3

When

Any ordinary day 27 In a change 8 Under stress 5 Coming and going 4

Coming off an antidepressant is a piece of work in itself. Plan it slowly with the prescriber rather than stopping on the day you feel well.

Some, venlafaxine especially, leave the body fast enough that a missed dose is felt within a day: dizziness, strange electrical sensations, a mood…

LongerWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:127

A few treatments are only given in a clinic, with someone sitting with you afterwards. The chair and the hours are part of the treatment rather than paperwork.

Esketamine is the current example. It is a nasal spray, given on site, with a monitoring period of about two hours afterwards because blood pressure,…

LongerWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 94:1

With the fast acting treatments, the plan for what happens afterwards matters as much as the treatment itself.

Electroconvulsive therapy can shift severe depression quickly, and without something in place afterwards the relapse rate is high, which is why…

LongerWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:110

Sometimes the honest answer is that there is nothing in your surroundings to feel good about. Changing them counts as treatment, not as running away.

A life with no friends nearby, no work that means anything and a steady drip of criticism will produce low mood in most people, and skills practised…

LongerWhen everything feels flatParts workQur’an 8:24

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