Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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42 practices

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How long you have

A minute 6 Five minutes 18 Twenty minutes 12 Longer 6

Who it is written for · Me

A practitioner 65 Someone I care about 54 Me 42 My husband or wife 9

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 22 Getting ready for something 10 Struggling right now 10

On your own, or with someone

On my own 29 Involves someone else 7 Both of us together 6

Theme · Treatment and medication

Medication and how it works 155Your nervous system 113Systems for daily life 103What anger actually is 89 The moment before you snap 88 Choosing your response 81 Get started 73 Grounding and settling 67 Equanimity and perspective 66 Moving your body 63 Cool the body first 61 Staying regulated in conflict 60 Food, caffeine and fuel 59 Feelings and focus 58 Your sense of time 58 Bringing the future closer 58 The fear underneath anger 58 Touch and bodywork 56 Getting assessed and diagnosed 50 What ADHD actually is 48 Practising under provocation 46 Exercise, food and other supports 46 When everything feels flat 44 Treatment and medication 42 Screens and attention 40 Breathing 34 Growing empathy 34 Shame and stigma 30 Being seen and judged 30 Making it stick 30 Structure and routine 28 Remembering to do it 26 Tolerate distress 26 What worry does 25 Treatment and medication 25 Knowing your partner 25 Answering bids 24 Feeling from the inside 23 What you are actually defending 23 Breaking the worry loop 23 Emotions as signals 22 When you use something to cope 22 Repair after rupture 19 Facing it a step at a time 18 Shared spiritual life 17 Rebuilding trust 17 Affection and touch 15 Fondness and admiration 15 Obsessions and compulsions 14 Rituals of connection 13 Shame 13 Posture and how you carry yourself 13 Listening and understanding 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Self-compassion 12 Question the thought 11 Use your strengths 10 Gratitude 9 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 The cost of avoiding 7 Living with uncertainty 5 When you go numb 5 When anger turns to harm 5 Rest and pacing 5 Meaning after harm 4 Safety and grounding 4 Letting it out safely 4 Act on your values 3 Panic and the body 3 Calm the body 3 Name what you feel 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Working with anger 3 Let the wave come 3 Care for yourself in loss 2 Ride the urge 2 Patience and trust 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Work with your brain 2 Listen to the body 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Keep the bond 2 Hold a boundary 2 Help someone grieving 2 Get it out of your head 2 Find meaning 2 Face it gently 2 Ask and say no well 2

Approach

Medical and treatment 32 CBT 5 ADHD skills 5

When

Any ordinary day 28 Coming and going 8 In a change 2 After a row 2 Under stress 1 When apart 1

Paying someone to help sort the house will not mend the marriage. It will remove one of the things you fight about most weeks, and that counts for more than it sounds.

Nobody should pretend this reaches anything deep. The point is arithmetic. A couple has a certain number of rows in them, and if the living room is…

LongerTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 94:5

People who are sleeping properly, eating properly and moving a bit tend to want each other more. The unglamorous parts of life management run closer to the bedroom than either of you might expect.

It is worth saying out loud when desire has quietly gone from a marriage, because the usual explanations reach for something heavier: he has lost…

LongerTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:185

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