Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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6 practices

Anger, alcohol and the body Me Coping, mostly Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 2 Twenty minutes 2 Longer 1

Who it is written for · Me

Me 6 A practitioner 6 Someone I care about 6

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Coping, mostly 6 Getting ready for something 1 Struggling right now 1

Theme · Anger, alcohol and the body

Medication and how it works 91 Staying regulated in conflict 60 Systems for daily life 60 Your nervous system 54 What anger actually is 50 Get started 47 Equanimity and perspective 44 Choosing your response 44 The moment before you snap 43 Moving your body 42 Bringing the future closer 41 The fear underneath anger 39 Your sense of time 34 Feelings and focus 32 Touch and bodywork 31 Exercise, food and other supports 28 Growing empathy 26 Getting assessed and diagnosed 25 Knowing your partner 25 When everything feels flat 24 Grounding and settling 24 Food, caffeine and fuel 24 Answering bids 24 Practising under provocation 22 Treatment and medication 22 Screens and attention 20 What ADHD actually is 20 Repair after rupture 19 Cool the body first 19 What you are actually defending 19 Structure and routine 19 Breathing 18 Being seen and judged 18 Making it stick 18 Rebuilding trust 17 Shared spiritual life 17 What worry does 15 Fondness and admiration 15 Affection and touch 15 Treatment and medication 15 Emotions as signals 14 Breaking the worry loop 13 Remembering to do it 13 Rituals of connection 13 Listening and understanding 13 Shame and stigma 12 Feeling from the inside 12 Righteous anger and perfectionism 12 Tolerate distress 9 When you use something to cope 9 Gratitude 9 Use your strengths 8 Self-compassion 8 Facing it a step at a time 6 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 Question the thought 5 Meaning after harm 4 Safety and grounding 4 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Let the wave come 3 When anger turns to harm 3 Calm the body 3 Act on your values 3 Name what you feel 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Working with anger 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Find meaning 2 Face it gently 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Ride the urge 2 Ask and say no well 2 Rest and pacing 2 Patience and trust 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Obsessions and compulsions 2 The cost of avoiding 2 Listen to the body 2 Work with your brain 2 Keep the bond 2 Hold a boundary 2 Help someone grieving 2 Get it out of your head 2 Living with uncertainty 1 Panic and the body 1 When you go numb 1 Reading, numbers and learning differences 1 Shame 1

When

Any ordinary day 5 After a row 1

You are right that the first drink takes the edge off. That is exactly what makes it hard, and pretending otherwise would only be untrue.

The calm is real at a small amount and it turns on you as the amount climbs, which is why the argument at eleven at night bears no resemblance to the…

A minuteAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:219

Alcohol does not add anger. It takes off the brake. Stimulants do the opposite job and press harder on the accelerator, and having both in you at once is the worst arrangement of the two.

What drink takes first is the part that holds you back, which is why nothing feels different from the inside. You are not angrier, there is simply…

Five minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 4:43

The strongest pull is not the anger by itself. It is anger plus being right, the lift in the body and the certainty of the moral high ground arriving together.

That pairing is genuinely hard to put down, because giving it up means giving up more than a mood. It means not being the wronged one for a while.…

Five minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:53

Hormones are part of this for everyone, not only for men and not only in adolescence. If your flares seem to arrive with a rhythm, that rhythm is worth writing down.

Episodes that look random from close up often turn out to have a shape once there is a record of them: a point in a monthly cycle, a change of…

Twenty minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 32:9

Anger has a chemistry of its own. There is nothing to pour down the sink and nobody to stop selling it to you, which is why letting it go feels like losing something rather than putting something down.

The lift is real. Heat, clarity, energy, a body that suddenly knows exactly what to do. Take that away and leave a gap where it was, and within a…

Twenty minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 13:28

Sleep, food, illness and the run of stress you have been carrying set the height of your fuse before anything has even happened. Sort those out and you are simply a calmer person that week, with no insight required.

This is the cheapest work available and it is nearly always skipped, because it feels too obvious to count. Notice when your worst moments land: late…

LongerAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 78:9

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