Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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4 practices

Letting it out safely Me Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 1 Twenty minutes 2

Who it is written for · Me

A practitioner 4 Me 4 Someone I care about 4

Theme · Letting it out safely

Medication and how it works 155Your nervous system 113Systems for daily life 103What anger actually is 89 The moment before you snap 88 Choosing your response 81 Get started 73 Grounding and settling 67 Equanimity and perspective 66 Moving your body 63 Cool the body first 61 Staying regulated in conflict 60 Food, caffeine and fuel 59 Bringing the future closer 58 Feelings and focus 58 Your sense of time 58 The fear underneath anger 58 Touch and bodywork 56 Getting assessed and diagnosed 50 What ADHD actually is 48 Exercise, food and other supports 46 Practising under provocation 46 When everything feels flat 44 Treatment and medication 42 Screens and attention 40 Growing empathy 34 Breathing 34 Shame and stigma 30 Being seen and judged 30 Making it stick 30 Structure and routine 28 Remembering to do it 26 Tolerate distress 26 Knowing your partner 25 Treatment and medication 25 What worry does 25 Answering bids 24 Breaking the worry loop 23 What you are actually defending 23 Feeling from the inside 23 When you use something to cope 22 Emotions as signals 22 Repair after rupture 19 Facing it a step at a time 18 Rebuilding trust 17 Shared spiritual life 17 Affection and touch 15 Fondness and admiration 15 Obsessions and compulsions 14 Shame 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Rituals of connection 13 Posture and how you carry yourself 13 Listening and understanding 13 Self-compassion 12 Question the thought 11 Use your strengths 10 Gratitude 9 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 The cost of avoiding 7 Rest and pacing 5 When you go numb 5 Living with uncertainty 5 When anger turns to harm 5 Safety and grounding 4 Letting it out safely 4 Meaning after harm 4 Let the wave come 3 Name what you feel 3 Act on your values 3 Panic and the body 3 Working with anger 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Calm the body 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Work with your brain 2 Hold a boundary 2 Ask and say no well 2 Help someone grieving 2 Patience and trust 2 Get it out of your head 2 Find meaning 2 Face it gently 2 Listen to the body 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Ride the urge 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Keep the bond 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Validate yourself and others 2

There is motion sitting inside the word emotion. Big feelings come out through the body, so if you cannot keep still while you are grieving, that is the feeling moving rather than something going wrong with you.

Think how strange it would be if someone heard they had come into a fortune and just said thank you and carried on with the morning. Joy gets up and…

A minuteLetting it out safelyGriefQur’an 12:84

Punching something to get the anger out is the piece of grief advice that gets argued over most, and the honest answer is that hitting rarely leaves a person calmer.

Plenty of good people will tell you a bag is better than a wall or a face, and there is something in that. What has not held up is the older idea…

Five minutesLetting it out safelyGriefQur’an 14:26

Give the anger a room rather than a target. Music up loud, walk fast, dance badly, shake your arms out until something in you settles.

Some children's grief centres keep a padded room where a child can go in and move however they need to, with nothing to hit and nothing to break.…

Twenty minutesLetting it out safelyGriefQur’an 10:12

Write the exact thing you are furious about on a paper plate, tape it to the wall, and throw wet cotton balls at it. It sounds childish, and it does more than swinging at nothing.

Half the good of it is in the writing. Vague anger has to become a sentence before it can go on the plate, and reading that sentence back usually…

Twenty minutesLetting it out safelyGriefQur’an 38:41

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