Practices

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Letting it out safely Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 1 Twenty minutes 2

Who it is written for

A practitioner 4 Someone I care about 4 Me 4

Theme · Letting it out safely

Medication and how it works 177Your nervous system 120Systems for daily life 114What anger actually is 103Getting assessed and diagnosed 93 The moment before you snap 88 Choosing your response 81 Get started 74 Treatment and medication 71 Moving your body 71 Grounding and settling 71 Equanimity and perspective 68 Your sense of time 66 Feelings and focus 66 What ADHD actually is 65 Staying regulated in conflict 65 Cool the body first 65 Touch and bodywork 65 Screens and attention 62 Exercise, food and other supports 61 The fear underneath anger 61 Bringing the future closer 60 Food, caffeine and fuel 59 When everything feels flat 54 Practising under provocation 46 The cost of avoiding 44 Structure and routine 36 Growing empathy 36 Breathing 35 Shame and stigma 35 What worry does 34 Reading, numbers and learning differences 34 Making it stick 33 Treatment and medication 31 Emotions as signals 30 Being seen and judged 30 Remembering to do it 27 Tolerate distress 27 Feeling from the inside 25 Knowing your partner 25 Answering bids 24 Breaking the worry loop 24 Facing it a step at a time 24 What you are actually defending 24 When you use something to cope 24 Repair after rupture 19 Shame 19 Obsessions and compulsions 18 Shared spiritual life 17 Rebuilding trust 17 Righteous anger and perfectionism 17 Affection and touch 15 Fondness and admiration 15 When anger turns to harm 15 Rituals of connection 13 Posture and how you carry yourself 13 Listening and understanding 13 Self-compassion 12 Question the thought 11 Use your strengths 10 Gratitude 9 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 When you go numb 7 Panic and the body 5 Rest and pacing 5 Living with uncertainty 5 Safety and grounding 4 Letting it out safely 4 Meaning after harm 4 Working with anger 3 Act on your values 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Name what you feel 3 Let the wave come 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Calm the body 3 Help someone grieving 2 Patience and trust 2 Hold a boundary 2 Get it out of your head 2 Keep the bond 2 Find meaning 2 Face it gently 2 Listen to the body 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Ride the urge 2 Ask and say no well 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Work with your brain 2

There is motion sitting inside the word emotion. Big feelings come out through the body, so if you cannot keep still while you are grieving, that is the feeling moving rather than something going wrong with you.

Think how strange it would be if someone heard they had come into a fortune and just said thank you and carried on with the morning. Joy gets up and…

A minuteLetting it out safelyGriefQur’an 12:84

Punching something to get the anger out is the piece of grief advice that gets argued over most, and the honest answer is that hitting rarely leaves a person calmer.

Plenty of good people will tell you a bag is better than a wall or a face, and there is something in that. What has not held up is the older idea…

Five minutesLetting it out safelyGriefQur’an 14:26

Give the anger a room rather than a target. Music up loud, walk fast, dance badly, shake your arms out until something in you settles.

Some children's grief centres keep a padded room where a child can go in and move however they need to, with nothing to hit and nothing to break.…

Twenty minutesLetting it out safelyGriefQur’an 10:12

Write the exact thing you are furious about on a paper plate, tape it to the wall, and throw wet cotton balls at it. It sounds childish, and it does more than swinging at nothing.

Half the good of it is in the writing. Vague anger has to become a sentence before it can go on the plate, and reading that sentence back usually…

Twenty minutesLetting it out safelyGriefQur’an 38:41

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