Practices

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Validate yourself and others Me Clear all

On your own, or with someone

On my own 1 Involves someone else 1

Theme · Validate yourself and others

Medication and how it works 155Your nervous system 113Systems for daily life 103What anger actually is 89 The moment before you snap 88 Choosing your response 81 Get started 73 Grounding and settling 67 Equanimity and perspective 66 Moving your body 63 Cool the body first 61 Staying regulated in conflict 60 Food, caffeine and fuel 59 Your sense of time 58 Bringing the future closer 58 The fear underneath anger 58 Feelings and focus 58 Touch and bodywork 56 Getting assessed and diagnosed 50 What ADHD actually is 48 Practising under provocation 46 Exercise, food and other supports 46 When everything feels flat 44 Treatment and medication 42 Screens and attention 40 Growing empathy 34 Breathing 34 Shame and stigma 30 Being seen and judged 30 Making it stick 30 Structure and routine 28 Remembering to do it 26 Tolerate distress 26 Treatment and medication 25 What worry does 25 Knowing your partner 25 Answering bids 24 Feeling from the inside 23 Breaking the worry loop 23 What you are actually defending 23 Emotions as signals 22 When you use something to cope 22 Repair after rupture 19 Facing it a step at a time 18 Rebuilding trust 17 Shared spiritual life 17 Fondness and admiration 15 Affection and touch 15 Obsessions and compulsions 14 Shame 13 Listening and understanding 13 Posture and how you carry yourself 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Rituals of connection 13 Self-compassion 12 Question the thought 11 Use your strengths 10 Gratitude 9 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 The cost of avoiding 7 When you go numb 5 When anger turns to harm 5 Rest and pacing 5 Living with uncertainty 5 Meaning after harm 4 Letting it out safely 4 Safety and grounding 4 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Act on your values 3 Name what you feel 3 Calm the body 3 Working with anger 3 Panic and the body 3 Let the wave come 3 Get it out of your head 2 Find meaning 2 Face it gently 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Work with your brain 2 Patience and trust 2 Ask and say no well 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Listen to the body 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Ride the urge 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Keep the bond 2 Hold a boundary 2 Help someone grieving 2

When

Under stress 1 After a row 1

Before you fix or argue, validate: that makes sense, I can see why you feel that. It cools the heat.

People calm down when they feel understood, not corrected. Understanding first, solutions later.

A minuteValidate yourself and othersDBT skillsQur’an 41:34

Validate your own feeling first: of course this stung. You do not need permission to feel it.

Do not add self-blame on top of a hard feeling. Let it be real, then decide what to do.

A minuteValidate yourself and othersDBT skillsQur’an 20:25

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