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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Choosing your response remove filterSomeone I care about remove filterAfter a row remove filterClear all
Who it is written for · Someone I care about
A practitioner 7Me 7Someone I care about 2My husband or wife 1
Theme · Choosing your response
What anger actually is 12Equanimity and perspective 11The fear underneath anger 10Cool the body first 7Screens and attention 6The moment before you snap 5Tolerate distress 4Remembering to do it 4When anger turns to harm 3Treatment and medication 3What ADHD actually is 3Your sense of time 3Shame and stigma 3Practising under provocation 3Making it stick 2Your nervous system 2Emotions as signals 2Choosing your response 2Bringing the future closer 2The cost of avoiding 2What you are actually defending 2Getting assessed and diagnosed 1Righteous anger and perfectionism 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Moving your body 1Grounding and settling 1Breaking the worry loop 1Facing it a step at a time 1
When · After a row
Any ordinary day 8Under stress 5After a row 2

You can tell someone they have hurt you without your voice showing it. The message and the heat come apart, and it is usually the heat that stops the message being heard.

Worth saying, because plenty of people believe the only options are swallowing it or letting it out. There is a third, which is saying the whole hard…

Five minutesChoosing your responseCBTQur’an 17:53

Under the anger there is usually something you wanted and did not get, or something you are afraid of losing. Say that, and you have handed the other person something they can actually do.

"You never help" gives someone a charge to deny. "I needed you to take the kids for an hour and I was too proud to ask" gives them a job. The second…

Five minutesChoosing your responseCBTQur’an 5:8

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