Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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When anger turns to harm Someone I care about Struggling right now Clear all

Who it is written for · Someone I care about

Someone I care about 4 A practitioner 4 Me 2

Where you are right now · Struggling right now

Coping, mostly 9 Struggling right now 4

On your own, or with someone

Both of us together 2 On my own 2

Theme · When anger turns to harm

Your nervous system 39 Grounding and settling 35 Systems for daily life 25 Cool the body first 25 What anger actually is 25 What ADHD actually is 20 Screens and attention 20 Shame and stigma 18 Your sense of time 14 Moving your body 13 The cost of avoiding 12 Treatment and medication 12 Medication and how it works 11 Reading, numbers and learning differences 11 What worry does 11 Feelings and focus 11 Equanimity and perspective 11 Breaking the worry loop 9 The moment before you snap 8 Tolerate distress 8 Breathing 8 Get started 8 The fear underneath anger 8 Shame 8 Remembering to do it 7 Structure and routine 7 When everything feels flat 6 When you use something to cope 6 Exercise, food and other supports 6 Bringing the future closer 5 Food, caffeine and fuel 5 Growing empathy 4 Making it stick 4 Letting it out safely 4 Practising under provocation 4 When anger turns to harm 4 Self-compassion 3 Facing it a step at a time 3 What you are actually defending 2 Feeling from the inside 2 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Use your strengths 1 Righteous anger and perfectionism 1 Rest and pacing 1 Question the thought 1 Getting assessed and diagnosed 1 Emotions as signals 1 Being seen and judged 1 Living with uncertainty 1

When

Under stress 3 After a row 1

The person you love and the person who frightened you are one person, and you are not obliged to decide which of them is the real one. Both were in the room.

People tend to collapse this in one direction or the other. Either the frightening one is the truth and every kind thing was an act, or the kind one…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 4:110

Hurting yourself is not always about coping. Sometimes it is aimed at somebody else, and until you know which it is you cannot know what would help.

This is uncomfortable to ask about and it is not an accusation. An act can be a way through an unbearable hour, or a message to someone who has…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 2:231

Before anything else, take seriously what self-injury is doing for a person. Pain in the body can be easier to hold than pain in the mind, and a hurt you chose yourself can feel like control coming back.

There are other honest reasons too. It can switch the world off for a while, or hold up a kind of armour: nobody can hurt me worse than I already do,…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 28:77

See what you made me do to myself. When self-harm is carrying a message like that, naming the message is not dismissing it, it is looking for the thing that could be said instead.

The question can be asked kindly and straight. Do you ever get angry enough with them to want to hurt yourself so that they feel it. People often say…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 42:40

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