Practices

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Getting assessed and diagnosed Someone I care about Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 3 Twenty minutes 1 Longer 2

Who it is written for · Someone I care about

A practitioner 93 Me 50 Someone I care about 7

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 5 Struggling right now 1 Getting ready for something 1

On your own, or with someone

Involves someone else 4 On my own 2 Both of us together 1

Theme · Getting assessed and diagnosed

Systems for daily life 110Medication and how it works 109Your nervous system 94 Moving your body 70 What anger actually is 69 What ADHD actually is 61 Your sense of time 60 Exercise, food and other supports 58 Grounding and settling 58 Treatment and medication 54 Screens and attention 49 The fear underneath anger 48 Equanimity and perspective 48 Cool the body first 46 The cost of avoiding 41 Bringing the future closer 39 Shame and stigma 34 What worry does 32 Get started 31 Reading, numbers and learning differences 30 Structure and routine 30 Breathing 28 Feelings and focus 27 The moment before you snap 27 Food, caffeine and fuel 25 Breaking the worry loop 24 Remembering to do it 24 What you are actually defending 22 Facing it a step at a time 18 Making it stick 18 When you use something to cope 17 Tolerate distress 15 Choosing your response 15 Growing empathy 15 When everything feels flat 14 When anger turns to harm 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 12 Self-compassion 11 Shame 10 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 Emotions as signals 8 Getting assessed and diagnosed 7 Use your strengths 7 Practising under provocation 6 Obsessions and compulsions 5 Being seen and judged 5 Touch and bodywork 4 Letting it out safely 4 Feeling from the inside 3 Help someone grieving 2 Question the thought 2 Rest and pacing 2 Living with uncertainty 1

When

Any ordinary day 2 Under stress 2 In a change 2 After a row 1

Try not to ask why. If the person knew why, they would probably have sorted it out already, and the question tends to land like an accusation.

Ask what happened just before instead. What was going on, what they felt, what came after, what sort of day it had been. Those answers can be worked…

A minuteGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 3:159

Teenage memories of this often come with a sting: the year you worked out how much longer everything took you than it seemed to take everybody else.

That is usually why adolescence is the period people can describe in detail. The work got harder, the scaffolding of primary school fell away, and…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 94:5

The checklists were built around the loud version of this, and girls are more often the quiet version. If she is struggling and nobody has ever suggested an assessment, that is worth pressing on.

Defiance in girls can look like refusal, withdrawal or a long-running argument about friendships rather than the disruption a teacher would report.…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 20:114

Home DNA tests turn up relatives nobody expected. If someone is thinking of taking one to fill in a blank family history, it is worth saying out loud that it may hand them more than they asked for.

People find half siblings. Sometimes they find that the story they were told about their birth was not the story. That is a great deal to receive by…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 50:16

Attention and impulse problems that appear for the first time in middle age or later are not ADHD arriving late. They need a doctor to look, not a prescription.

Several conditions affecting the frontal lobes can show up first as new disinhibition, poor judgement or a change in personality, and some are…

Twenty minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 21:7

When a child with attention difficulties is also at war with every instruction, that pairing is worth taking to someone early rather than waiting to see whether it settles.

The two travel together often, and a minority of children follow a path from constant defiance into more serious trouble later. Every stage of that…

LongerGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 2:216

When a child truly does not mind losing the privilege, taking more away will not get you anywhere. That is the moment to change approach rather than raise the stakes, usually to a structured parent programme that works on the pattern between parent and child.

Star charts fail with these children because the reward was never the point of the behaviour. What helps is a proper course of parent management…

LongerGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 3:159

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