Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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How long you have · Twenty minutes
Who it is written for
Theme · Staying regulated in conflict
Staying regulated in conflict 3The moment before you snap 3Feelings and focus 3What anger actually is 2Repair after rupture 2The cost of avoiding 2Cool the body first 2What ADHD actually is 1Emotions as signals 1Moving your body 1Rebuilding trust 1Remembering to do it 1Screens and attention 1Your sense of time 1The fear underneath anger 1
When · After a row
After a fight has cooled, revisit it once without blame, each saying how it felt.
Not who was right. How it felt for me, how it felt for you, and what we each needed.
On the fight you keep having, stop trying to win it and ask what it means to them underneath.
What are you hoping for, or afraid of, in this. Then only listen for the dream beneath.
Before you argue your side, say their side back so well that they feel understood.
Summarize what they mean until they say yes, that is it. Then, and only then, your turn.
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