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Validate yourself and others After a row Clear all

Theme · Validate yourself and others

Staying regulated in conflict 28 What anger actually is 22 Repair after rupture 15 Equanimity and perspective 14 The fear underneath anger 12 Feelings and focus 11 Emotions as signals 9 Cool the body first 9 Rebuilding trust 9 The moment before you snap 7 Choosing your response 7 Screens and attention 6 Practising under provocation 6 Remembering to do it 5 Treatment and medication 4 Tolerate distress 4 Shame and stigma 3 When anger turns to harm 3 Bringing the future closer 3 When you go numb 3 Your sense of time 3 What ADHD actually is 3 Shame 2 What you are actually defending 2 Your nervous system 2 Making it stick 2 Getting assessed and diagnosed 2 Growing empathy 2 The cost of avoiding 2 Breaking the worry loop 1 Fondness and admiration 1 Facing it a step at a time 1 Grounding and settling 1 Righteous anger and perfectionism 1 Use your strengths 1 Validate yourself and others 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Moving your body 1 Affection and touch 1

When · After a row

After a row 1 Under stress 1

Before you fix or argue, validate: that makes sense, I can see why you feel that. It cools the heat.

People calm down when they feel understood, not corrected. Understanding first, solutions later.

A minuteValidate yourself and othersDBT skillsQur’an 41:34

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