Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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36 practices
How long you have · Five minutes
Who it is written for
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Systems for daily life
Medication and how it works 99Your nervous system 54Getting assessed and diagnosed 43Systems for daily life 36What anger actually is 35Exercise, food and other supports 35Your sense of time 35Get started 33Food, caffeine and fuel 29What ADHD actually is 28Equanimity and perspective 27The moment before you snap 26Screens and attention 23Choosing your response 23When everything feels flat 23Practising under provocation 22Treatment and medication 22Touch and bodywork 22Bringing the future closer 22What worry does 20Grounding and settling 19Moving your body 17The fear underneath anger 17Shame and stigma 15Being seen and judged 14Reading, numbers and learning differences 14Structure and routine 13Cool the body first 13Remembering to do it 11What you are actually defending 10Breathing 10Feelings and focus 10Feeling from the inside 10Growing empathy 10Making it stick 9Righteous anger and perfectionism 9The cost of avoiding 9Treatment and medication 9Obsessions and compulsions 8Breaking the worry loop 8When you use something to cope 8Emotions as signals 7Facing it a step at a time 7Knowing your partner 6Tolerate distress 4Self-compassion 4Shared spiritual life 4Rituals of connection 3Posture and how you carry yourself 3Shame 3When you go numb 3Work with your brain 2Use your strengths 2Act on your values 2Question the thought 2Panic and the body 2Meaning after harm 2Listening and understanding 2Find meaning 2When anger turns to harm 2Your window of tolerance 1Notice the pattern and flex 1Staying regulated in conflict 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Get it out of your head 1Living with uncertainty 1Rest and pacing 1Rebuilding trust 1Affection and touch 1Your worth is not conditional 1Face it gently 1
Approach
When · Any ordinary day

Before a task you have been circling for days, give five minutes to moving your body. A brisk walk or a couple of flights of stairs is often enough to make starting feel less like pushing at a door that will not open.

Treat the movement as part of the task rather than something virtuous you do separately. The lift is short lived, so it helps most sitting right…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeMedical and treatmentQur’an 20:114

Light movement while you work is not stolen from the work. Rocking a foot, standing up, a slow circuit of the room on a call: for many people the concentration goes up rather than down.

Worth testing instead of assuming. Take one task you always do sitting still and do it moving gently: read on your feet, take the meeting walking,…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeMedical and treatmentQur’an 22:78

Do not leave it to eleven at night to decide whether to close the tab. Set the block in the afternoon, while you are still the version of yourself who wants it set.

A browser extension that shuts certain sites between certain hours, a router on a timer, mobile data off after a set time. Pick one, set it once, and…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeMedical and treatmentQur’an 34:11

Good help leaves you more able to do it yourself next time. If the whole thing only works while the other person is in the room, something has gone sideways.

There is a real difference between someone building your schedule for you and someone sitting beside you while you build it. The second is slower and…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 18:95

Decide now what you will do when the technology fails, because it will. The plan can be one line: if the connection drops, I take the laptop to the library and carry on there.

Write the fallback next to the thing it protects. Where else could I work, who do I message to say I will be late, what is the offline version of…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 2:283

Some people genuinely do not feel time passing. There is now, and there is not now, and the hour in between goes missing. That is a difference in perception rather than a comment on how much someone cares.

Worth saying plainly in a family where lateness has turned into a moral argument. A person who is never on time may be honestly surprised each…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 2:189

If a course has no fixed time, give it one. Write down which day and which hour you will watch it, put that in the calendar as though somebody else set it, and tell one person.

Five minutes every Sunday: when am I watching this, and when am I doing the work that comes after it. Then one short message midweek to whoever is…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 2:282

Planning does not really happen in your head. Until the week is written somewhere you actually look, you are guessing, however sincere your intentions are.

One calendar rather than four. Paper or phone matters far less than whether you will open it, so choose the one that appears in front of you without…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 68:1

Writing the list is the easy half. If twelve things are down on paper and you still cannot move, the missing skill is choosing, not capturing.

Decide with a question rather than by feel: what actually happens if this is not done by Friday. Anything with a real consequence goes to the top,…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 12:47

Urgent means the clock is pushing. Important means it matters to the life you are trying to have. In the moment the two feel identical, and they are not.

Take your list and put one letter beside each thing. U if something real goes wrong today when it slips, I if it moves you towards something you care…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 25:67

The good place to be is where things matter but nothing is on fire yet. Booking the check-up, planning next term, getting the haircut before it becomes a situation.

None of it feels like an achievement, which is exactly why it gets no credit and keeps slipping. Try counting it as work: the dentist, the form, an…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 12:47

There is a corner of the week that is neither urgent nor important, and it is where avoiding lives. The real cost is rarely the lost hours. It is what you end up saying to yourself afterwards.

Learn the difference between resting and avoiding, because from outside they look identical and they feel nothing alike. Rest leaves you lighter.…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 7:31

Instead of guessing what pulls you away, catch it happening. Keep a scrap of paper beside you for a week and note whatever took you off, at the moment it takes you off.

Two words is plenty: phone, hungry, that noise, the thought about Saturday. The writing itself breaks the drift, so some of the benefit arrives…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 10:61

Sort the work into hardest, middling and easiest, then choose the order on purpose. Easy first for momentum or hard first while you are sharp, both are fine. What is not fine is letting the most interesting thing win by default.

Write the three piles on paper and then pick. If you tend to run out of steam by three in the afternoon, the hard thing belongs in the morning. If…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 34:11

Work, friends, games and news all happen on the same rectangle, so nothing in your surroundings tells you which one you are in. Software has to do the job the room used to do.

A blocker that shuts the usual sites during your working hours, a tracker that shows you afterwards where the time actually went, or a small app that…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 50:17

Keep both tools, and settle in advance where each thing goes. The deciding is what wears you out, so make that decision once instead of forty times a week.

The rule can be a single line inside the front cover: if it has a time, calendar; if it has a deadline but no time, list. Then writing things down…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 12:55

Some things can only be done between nine and five, and those are the ones that quietly fail. Ring the bank, chase the appointment, sort the form: give those a time before anything else.

The failure is silent. You mean to do it all day, the office closes, and it rolls to tomorrow where the same thing happens again. Go through your…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 2:189

Some jobs never move because they were never yours. Somebody else wanted them and you wrote them down to be kind.

You can usually spot one: the item that has been copied onto three different lists and never once started. The trouble is not that the work is hard.…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 2:286

For the item that never gets done, make an actual decision: cross it off, or find a way to genuinely want it. Leaving it sitting there is the only option that costs you every single day.

Taking it on often works through a person rather than through the task. You may not care about the paperwork, but you care about whoever is waiting…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 5:2

Saying no accurately depends on a calendar you actually keep. You cannot check whether Thursday is free if Thursday looks blank when it is not.

This is what makes the fiddly work of maintaining a diary worth doing. Nobody keeps a calendar for the pleasure of keeping one. You keep it so that…

Five minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 65:7

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