Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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6 practices

Affection and touch A minute Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have · A minute

A minute 6 Five minutes 1

Who it is written for

My husband or wife 6 Me 6

On your own, or with someone

Involves someone else 5 On my own 1

Theme · Affection and touch

Medication and how it works 22 Get started 20 Systems for daily life 20 Bringing the future closer 17 The moment before you snap 16 Structure and routine 16 Your nervous system 15 Fondness and admiration 14 Choosing your response 14 Your sense of time 14 Growing empathy 13 Treatment and medication 13 Answering bids 11 Knowing your partner 11 Staying regulated in conflict 10 What anger actually is 9 Gratitude 9 Making it stick 9 Food, caffeine and fuel 9 Exercise, food and other supports 9 Getting assessed and diagnosed 8 Cool the body first 8 Listening and understanding 8 Touch and bodywork 8 Screens and attention 7 What ADHD actually is 7 Moving your body 7 Breathing 7 Grounding and settling 7 Feelings and focus 6 Affection and touch 6 When everything feels flat 6 Remembering to do it 6 Treatment and medication 5 The cost of avoiding 5 The fear underneath anger 5 Shared spiritual life 5 Equanimity and perspective 5 Being seen and judged 5 Practising under provocation 4 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Shame and stigma 4 Feeling from the inside 3 Emotions as signals 3 When you use something to cope 3 Self-compassion 3 What worry does 3 What you are actually defending 2 Your worth is not conditional 2 Question the thought 2 Obsessions and compulsions 2 Notice the pattern and flex 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Tolerate distress 2 Rebuilding trust 2 Facing it a step at a time 2 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Shame 1 Rituals of connection 1 Repair after rupture 1 Breaking the worry loop 1 Panic and the body 1 Keep the bond 1 Get it out of your head 1 Face it gently 1

Approach

Core 3 Emotionally focused 2 Gottman 1

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 6 Under stress 6 After a row 1 Coming and going 1

Give your spouse one embrace today that lasts longer than usual, until you both soften.

A hug held past the polite second. Long enough for the shoulders to drop.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 2:187

Offer your spouse warm touch today with nothing asked in return.

A hand on the shoulder, a passing squeeze. Contact that is only kindness, not a request.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 2:187

Touch them once today with nothing else attached.

A hand on the shoulder as you pass. Sitting close on the sofa. Reaching for their hand while you talk about nothing. No agenda, no next step. Just…

A minuteAffection and touchCoreQur’an 30:21

Hold their hand while you talk about something completely ordinary.

Touch with no request attached is a language of safety all its own.

A minuteAffection and touchCoreQur’an 30:21

Make them laugh once today, on purpose.

Shared lightness is not frivolous; it is a thread that keeps two people close.

A minuteAffection and touchCoreQur’an 2:187

Kiss, hold, and touch each other daily, at partings, reunions, and before bed. Learn the touch your partner likes.

Affection is not only for special moments. Small, regular touch keeps warmth and closeness alive.

A minuteAffection and touchGottmanQur’an 30:21

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