Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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4 practicesHow long you have · A minute
Who it is written for
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Practising under provocation
When · Any ordinary day
Before you practise something exposing with someone, say out loud what is not at risk. I will not think less of you, and nothing between us changes here.
It sounds obvious and it does a great deal of work. If the relationship really is on the line, then the discomfort is not symbolic and no amount of…
Call the practice whatever fits you. Stress inoculation, rolling with the punches, a Teflon mind, the art of not giving a damn: the name changes nothing about what you do, and a name you can stand makes you likelier to do it.
People come to this with different histories and some of them have been lectured before. If the language sounds like a self help poster to you, use…
Be careful with the language about growing a thicker skin. Before anyone is asked to mind less, someone has to check that what they are minding really is only a slight.
Where the insults are discrimination, bullying or the run up to abuse, telling a person to toughen up is telling them to distrust an accurate reading…
Treat these as experiments rather than instructions. You are not obeying a programme, you are finding out what happens, and that difference changes how it feels to do them.
People who are quick to anger are often also quick to bristle at being told what to do, and a challenge sits far better with that than a homework…
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