Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

5 practices

Shared spiritual life A minute Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have · A minute

A minute 5 Five minutes 4 Twenty minutes 7

Who it is written for

Me 5 My husband or wife 5

Theme · Shared spiritual life

Medication and how it works 22 Systems for daily life 20 Get started 20 Bringing the future closer 17 Structure and routine 16 The moment before you snap 16 Your nervous system 15 Fondness and admiration 14 Your sense of time 14 Choosing your response 14 Treatment and medication 13 Growing empathy 13 Answering bids 11 Knowing your partner 11 Staying regulated in conflict 10 Gratitude 9 What anger actually is 9 Food, caffeine and fuel 9 Making it stick 9 Exercise, food and other supports 9 Cool the body first 8 Touch and bodywork 8 Getting assessed and diagnosed 8 Listening and understanding 8 Grounding and settling 7 Breathing 7 Moving your body 7 Screens and attention 7 What ADHD actually is 7 Affection and touch 6 Feelings and focus 6 When everything feels flat 6 Remembering to do it 6 The cost of avoiding 5 The fear underneath anger 5 Treatment and medication 5 Shared spiritual life 5 Equanimity and perspective 5 Being seen and judged 5 Shame and stigma 4 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Practising under provocation 4 Feeling from the inside 3 Emotions as signals 3 When you use something to cope 3 Self-compassion 3 What worry does 3 Facing it a step at a time 2 What you are actually defending 2 Tolerate distress 2 Your worth is not conditional 2 Notice the pattern and flex 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Question the thought 2 Rebuilding trust 2 Obsessions and compulsions 2 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Repair after rupture 1 Shame 1 Panic and the body 1 Breaking the worry loop 1 Keep the bond 1 Get it out of your head 1 Face it gently 1 Rituals of connection 1

Approach

Gottman 3 Core 1 Emotionally focused 1

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 5 Under stress 1

Encourage one thing your spouse wants to try, and tell them you have got their back.

Go, I am here if it wobbles. A secure base is what lets someone venture out bravely.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeEmotionally focusedQur’an 5:2

In one decision this week, ask what is best for us, not only what is best for me.

The small choices reveal the we. Let one lean toward the partnership over the self.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 9:71

Keep the smallest thing you said you would do for your spouse today.

The call, the errand, the small promise. Trust is built from tiny kept words.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 23:8

Speak about the future today as we, not I, in one thing you mention to your spouse.

When we are older, the home we are making. Language that assumes a shared road ahead.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 25:74

Pray for them, by name, for one thing they are quietly carrying.

To ask God for the very thing that weighs on them is one of the most intimate acts of love.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeCoreQur’an 25:74

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