Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

7 practices

Affection and touch Coping, mostly Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have

A minute 6 Five minutes 1

Who it is written for

My husband or wife 7 Me 7

On your own, or with someone

Involves someone else 6 On my own 1

Theme · Affection and touch

Medication and how it works 97 Systems for daily life 69 Getting assessed and diagnosed 54 Your nervous system 47 Get started 47 Moving your body 43 Exercise, food and other supports 40 Treatment and medication 39 Your sense of time 37 What anger actually is 37 Bringing the future closer 36 Touch and bodywork 30 What ADHD actually is 28 Screens and attention 26 Equanimity and perspective 26 Growing empathy 25 The moment before you snap 25 Structure and routine 25 When everything feels flat 25 Choosing your response 24 Feelings and focus 23 Food, caffeine and fuel 23 What worry does 22 Grounding and settling 21 Treatment and medication 20 The fear underneath anger 20 Knowing your partner 20 The cost of avoiding 19 Breathing 18 Being seen and judged 16 Shared spiritual life 16 Practising under provocation 15 Making it stick 15 Fondness and admiration 14 Breaking the worry loop 14 Shame and stigma 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Remembering to do it 13 What you are actually defending 13 Answering bids 12 Staying regulated in conflict 11 Emotions as signals 10 Listening and understanding 10 When you use something to cope 10 Reading, numbers and learning differences 10 Feeling from the inside 10 Gratitude 9 Affection and touch 7 Rituals of connection 7 Use your strengths 7 Self-compassion 6 When anger turns to harm 6 Cool the body first 6 Rebuilding trust 5 Obsessions and compulsions 5 Tolerate distress 5 Anger, alcohol and the body 5 Facing it a step at a time 5 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Question the thought 3 Panic and the body 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Repair after rupture 3 Get it out of your head 2 Work with your brain 2 Find meaning 2 Act on your values 2 Face it gently 2 Rest and pacing 2 Keep the bond 2 Meaning after harm 2 When you go numb 1 Shame 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Listen to the body 1 Safety and grounding 1 Living with uncertainty 1

Approach

Core 4 Emotionally focused 2 Gottman 1

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 7 Under stress 6 Coming and going 1 After a row 1

Give your spouse one embrace today that lasts longer than usual, until you both soften.

A hug held past the polite second. Long enough for the shoulders to drop.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 2:187

Offer your spouse warm touch today with nothing asked in return.

A hand on the shoulder, a passing squeeze. Contact that is only kindness, not a request.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 2:187

Touch them once today with nothing else attached.

A hand on the shoulder as you pass. Sitting close on the sofa. Reaching for their hand while you talk about nothing. No agenda, no next step. Just…

A minuteAffection and touchCoreQur’an 30:21

Hold their hand while you talk about something completely ordinary.

Touch with no request attached is a language of safety all its own.

A minuteAffection and touchCoreQur’an 30:21

Make them laugh once today, on purpose.

Shared lightness is not frivolous; it is a thread that keeps two people close.

A minuteAffection and touchCoreQur’an 2:187

Kiss, hold, and touch each other daily, at partings, reunions, and before bed. Learn the touch your partner likes.

Affection is not only for special moments. Small, regular touch keeps warmth and closeness alive.

A minuteAffection and touchGottmanQur’an 30:21

Do one small, slightly ridiculous thing together.

A shared bit of play refreshes a couple more than another serious conversation can.

Five minutesAffection and touchCoreQur’an 2:187

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