Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Anger, alcohol and the body Coping, mostly Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 1 Twenty minutes 2 Longer 1

Who it is written for

Me 5 Someone I care about 5 A practitioner 5

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Coping, mostly 5 Getting ready for something 1

Theme · Anger, alcohol and the body

Medication and how it works 97 Systems for daily life 69 Getting assessed and diagnosed 54 Get started 47 Your nervous system 47 Moving your body 43 Exercise, food and other supports 40 Treatment and medication 39 Your sense of time 37 What anger actually is 37 Bringing the future closer 36 Touch and bodywork 30 What ADHD actually is 28 Equanimity and perspective 26 Screens and attention 26 The moment before you snap 25 Growing empathy 25 When everything feels flat 25 Structure and routine 25 Choosing your response 24 Food, caffeine and fuel 23 Feelings and focus 23 What worry does 22 Grounding and settling 21 Treatment and medication 20 The fear underneath anger 20 Knowing your partner 20 The cost of avoiding 19 Breathing 18 Being seen and judged 16 Shared spiritual life 16 Practising under provocation 15 Making it stick 15 Breaking the worry loop 14 Fondness and admiration 14 What you are actually defending 13 Shame and stigma 13 Remembering to do it 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Answering bids 12 Staying regulated in conflict 11 Feeling from the inside 10 When you use something to cope 10 Emotions as signals 10 Reading, numbers and learning differences 10 Listening and understanding 10 Gratitude 9 Use your strengths 7 Rituals of connection 7 Affection and touch 7 Self-compassion 6 When anger turns to harm 6 Cool the body first 6 Facing it a step at a time 5 Anger, alcohol and the body 5 Rebuilding trust 5 Obsessions and compulsions 5 Tolerate distress 5 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Repair after rupture 3 Panic and the body 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Question the thought 3 Find meaning 2 Meaning after harm 2 Rest and pacing 2 Keep the bond 2 Face it gently 2 Work with your brain 2 Act on your values 2 Get it out of your head 2 When you go numb 1 Safety and grounding 1 Living with uncertainty 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Shame 1 Listen to the body 1 Care for yourself in loss 1

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 5 After a row 1

You are right that the first drink takes the edge off. That is exactly what makes it hard, and pretending otherwise would only be untrue.

The calm is real at a small amount and it turns on you as the amount climbs, which is why the argument at eleven at night bears no resemblance to the…

A minuteAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:219

Alcohol does not add anger. It takes off the brake. Stimulants do the opposite job and press harder on the accelerator, and having both in you at once is the worst arrangement of the two.

What drink takes first is the part that holds you back, which is why nothing feels different from the inside. You are not angrier, there is simply…

Five minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 4:43

Hormones are part of this for everyone, not only for men and not only in adolescence. If your flares seem to arrive with a rhythm, that rhythm is worth writing down.

Episodes that look random from close up often turn out to have a shape once there is a record of them: a point in a monthly cycle, a change of…

Twenty minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 32:9

Anger has a chemistry of its own. There is nothing to pour down the sink and nobody to stop selling it to you, which is why letting it go feels like losing something rather than putting something down.

The lift is real. Heat, clarity, energy, a body that suddenly knows exactly what to do. Take that away and leave a gap where it was, and within a…

Twenty minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 13:28

Sleep, food, illness and the run of stress you have been carrying set the height of your fuse before anything has even happened. Sort those out and you are simply a calmer person that week, with no insight required.

This is the cheapest work available and it is nearly always skipped, because it feels too obvious to count. Notice when your worst moments land: late…

LongerAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 78:9

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