Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Anger, alcohol and the body Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 1 Twenty minutes 2 Longer 2

Who it is written for

A practitioner 6 Someone I care about 6 Me 6

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 5 Getting ready for something 1

Theme · Anger, alcohol and the body

Medication and how it works 148Systems for daily life 90 Your nervous system 87 Get started 69 Getting assessed and diagnosed 64 What anger actually is 58 Your sense of time 58 Moving your body 56 Exercise, food and other supports 55 Food, caffeine and fuel 53 The moment before you snap 49 Treatment and medication 48 What ADHD actually is 48 Bringing the future closer 46 Choosing your response 45 Screens and attention 44 Touch and bodywork 38 Equanimity and perspective 37 Grounding and settling 34 When everything feels flat 34 Structure and routine 33 Feelings and focus 32 Reading, numbers and learning differences 31 The fear underneath anger 31 Practising under provocation 30 Growing empathy 29 What worry does 26 Cool the body first 25 Shame and stigma 25 Being seen and judged 24 The cost of avoiding 24 Making it stick 24 Breathing 24 Treatment and medication 23 Knowing your partner 20 Remembering to do it 20 When you use something to cope 19 Breaking the worry loop 16 Feeling from the inside 16 Facing it a step at a time 16 Shared spiritual life 16 What you are actually defending 14 Fondness and admiration 14 Emotions as signals 13 Obsessions and compulsions 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Tolerate distress 12 Answering bids 12 Staying regulated in conflict 11 Listening and understanding 10 Posture and how you carry yourself 9 Gratitude 9 Use your strengths 8 Self-compassion 8 Rituals of connection 7 Shame 7 Affection and touch 7 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 When anger turns to harm 6 Question the thought 6 Rebuilding trust 5 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Rest and pacing 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Panic and the body 3 Repair after rupture 3 Living with uncertainty 3 When you go numb 3 Work with your brain 2 Get it out of your head 2 Keep the bond 2 Act on your values 2 Face it gently 2 Find meaning 2 Meaning after harm 2 Safety and grounding 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Listen to the body 1

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 6 After a row 1 Under stress 1

You are right that the first drink takes the edge off. That is exactly what makes it hard, and pretending otherwise would only be untrue.

The calm is real at a small amount and it turns on you as the amount climbs, which is why the argument at eleven at night bears no resemblance to the…

A minuteAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:219

Alcohol does not add anger. It takes off the brake. Stimulants do the opposite job and press harder on the accelerator, and having both in you at once is the worst arrangement of the two.

What drink takes first is the part that holds you back, which is why nothing feels different from the inside. You are not angrier, there is simply…

Five minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 4:43

Hormones are part of this for everyone, not only for men and not only in adolescence. If your flares seem to arrive with a rhythm, that rhythm is worth writing down.

Episodes that look random from close up often turn out to have a shape once there is a record of them: a point in a monthly cycle, a change of…

Twenty minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 32:9

Anger has a chemistry of its own. There is nothing to pour down the sink and nobody to stop selling it to you, which is why letting it go feels like losing something rather than putting something down.

The lift is real. Heat, clarity, energy, a body that suddenly knows exactly what to do. Take that away and leave a gap where it was, and within a…

Twenty minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 13:28

If drinking is anywhere in the picture, stopping will probably do more for your anger than any technique you could learn. That is not the interesting answer, it is just the one that moves the most.

Skills work at the edges of a hard moment. Alcohol removes the very part of you those skills run on, so you can practise beautifully on a Tuesday…

LongerAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 5:91

Sleep, food, illness and the run of stress you have been carrying set the height of your fuse before anything has even happened. Sort those out and you are simply a calmer person that week, with no insight required.

This is the cheapest work available and it is nearly always skipped, because it feels too obvious to count. Notice when your worst moments land: late…

LongerAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 78:9

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