Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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3 practices

When you go numb Any ordinary day Clear all

Who it is written for

My husband or wife 3 A practitioner 3 Me 3

Where you are right now

Struggling right now 2 Coping, mostly 1

Theme · When you go numb

Medication and how it works 148Systems for daily life 90 Your nervous system 87 Get started 69 Getting assessed and diagnosed 64 Your sense of time 58 What anger actually is 58 Moving your body 56 Exercise, food and other supports 55 Food, caffeine and fuel 53 The moment before you snap 49 What ADHD actually is 48 Treatment and medication 48 Bringing the future closer 46 Choosing your response 45 Screens and attention 44 Touch and bodywork 38 Equanimity and perspective 37 Grounding and settling 34 When everything feels flat 34 Structure and routine 33 Feelings and focus 32 Reading, numbers and learning differences 31 The fear underneath anger 31 Practising under provocation 30 Growing empathy 29 What worry does 26 Shame and stigma 25 Cool the body first 25 Making it stick 24 The cost of avoiding 24 Being seen and judged 24 Breathing 24 Treatment and medication 23 Knowing your partner 20 Remembering to do it 20 When you use something to cope 19 Breaking the worry loop 16 Feeling from the inside 16 Facing it a step at a time 16 Shared spiritual life 16 Fondness and admiration 14 What you are actually defending 14 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Obsessions and compulsions 13 Emotions as signals 13 Tolerate distress 12 Answering bids 12 Staying regulated in conflict 11 Listening and understanding 10 Posture and how you carry yourself 9 Gratitude 9 Use your strengths 8 Self-compassion 8 Shame 7 Affection and touch 7 Rituals of connection 7 Question the thought 6 When anger turns to harm 6 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 Rebuilding trust 5 Repair after rupture 3 Living with uncertainty 3 Rest and pacing 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Panic and the body 3 When you go numb 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Meaning after harm 2 Keep the bond 2 Find meaning 2 Face it gently 2 Get it out of your head 2 Act on your values 2 Work with your brain 2 Your window of tolerance 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Listen to the body 1 Safety and grounding 1

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 3 After a row 3 When apart 1

When someone says they feel nothing, find out where the nothing reaches. All the time, or only towards good things, or only here, in this conversation, when criticism is in the air?

The three answers point in quite different directions. Numb everywhere, day and night, is worth taking to a doctor. Numb to good things while the bad…

Five minutesWhen you go numbEmotionally focusedQur’an 50:37

If a medicine has taken the edge off everything, including the good things, that is worth raising with whoever prescribed it. Taking the sharpness out of pain is one thing. Feeling nothing at all is not a way to live.

It matters practically as well as personally. Anything you are trying to change, in a relationship or in yourself, needs some feeling to work with,…

Five minutesWhen you go numbEmotionally focusedQur’an 6:122

Going still and needing nothing is usually something a person worked out young, somewhere it was the sensible answer.

If reaching out met dismissal, or worse, then not reaching out is not a flaw of character. A child who stops asking, stops showing what they feel and…

Five minutesWhen you go numbEmotionally focusedQur’an 57:16

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