Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

7 practices

Rituals of connection Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 3 Twenty minutes 3

Who it is written for

My husband or wife 7 Me 7

Theme · Rituals of connection

Medication and how it works 148Systems for daily life 90 Your nervous system 87 Get started 69 Getting assessed and diagnosed 64 Your sense of time 58 What anger actually is 58 Moving your body 56 Exercise, food and other supports 55 Food, caffeine and fuel 53 The moment before you snap 49 Treatment and medication 48 What ADHD actually is 48 Bringing the future closer 46 Choosing your response 45 Screens and attention 44 Touch and bodywork 38 Equanimity and perspective 37 Grounding and settling 34 When everything feels flat 34 Structure and routine 33 Feelings and focus 32 The fear underneath anger 31 Reading, numbers and learning differences 31 Practising under provocation 30 Growing empathy 29 What worry does 26 Shame and stigma 25 Cool the body first 25 Being seen and judged 24 Breathing 24 Making it stick 24 The cost of avoiding 24 Treatment and medication 23 Remembering to do it 20 Knowing your partner 20 When you use something to cope 19 Feeling from the inside 16 Facing it a step at a time 16 Shared spiritual life 16 Breaking the worry loop 16 What you are actually defending 14 Fondness and admiration 14 Emotions as signals 13 Obsessions and compulsions 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Answering bids 12 Tolerate distress 12 Staying regulated in conflict 11 Listening and understanding 10 Gratitude 9 Posture and how you carry yourself 9 Use your strengths 8 Self-compassion 8 Affection and touch 7 Shame 7 Rituals of connection 7 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 When anger turns to harm 6 Question the thought 6 Rebuilding trust 5 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Rest and pacing 3 When you go numb 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Panic and the body 3 Repair after rupture 3 Living with uncertainty 3 Work with your brain 2 Find meaning 2 Act on your values 2 Face it gently 2 Keep the bond 2 Meaning after harm 2 Get it out of your head 2 Your window of tolerance 1 Safety and grounding 1 Listen to the body 1 Care for yourself in loss 1

Approach

Core 3 Gottman 2 Emotionally focused 2

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 7 Coming and going 5 Something good 1

Say plainly when you are here and for how long, so they never have to guess.

Naming your presence is a small gift that removes the guesswork of whether you are reachable.

A minuteRituals of connectionCoreQur’an 17:34

Keep one daily moment to reconnect, a few minutes that are only about the two of you.

Morning coffee, the walk, the goodnight. A small daily island of us.

Five minutesRituals of connectionEmotionally focusedQur’an 25:62

Choose one small daily ritual and protect it this week. Same time, phones away.

The morning tea, the evening walk, the goodnight. Small, repeated, only yours.

Five minutesRituals of connectionGottmanQur’an 25:62

Go to bed at the same time tonight.

Small shared rhythms, sleeping and waking and eating together, are the scaffolding of closeness.

Five minutesRituals of connectionCoreQur’an 30:21

Once this week, sit together unhurried and share one feeling and one reassurance.

Not logistics. How are we really, and what do you need from me. A regular heart to heart.

Twenty minutesRituals of connectionEmotionally focusedQur’an 30:21

Share one meal today with nothing else happening, no screen, no rush.

Undivided attention over something ordinary is a small daily ritual of belonging.

Twenty minutesRituals of connectionCoreQur’an 4:19

Keep a weekly date, just the two of you, to keep learning each other with open questions.

A regular two hours together, asking about dreams and hopes, keeps your map of each other current.

Twenty minutesRituals of connectionGottmanQur’an 25:74

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