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Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

2 practices
Low mood and hard feelings remove filterShame remove filterComing and going remove filterClear all
How long you have
A minute 1Twenty minutes 1
Who it is written for
My husband or wife 2A practitioner 2Someone I care about 1
Where you are right now
Getting ready for something 1Coping, mostly 1
Theme · Shame
When everything feels flat 6Shame 2When you use something to cope 1
When · Coming and going
Under stress 8Any ordinary day 7After a row 2Coming and going 2

When someone tells you they have failed, the most useful thing you can do is nothing clever. Let your face stay soft and keep looking at them.

Shame is braced for disgust, so it reads your face before it hears your words. A quick reassurance can even land as a rush to move on. Slower is…

A minuteShameEmotionally focusedQur’an 93:3

A friend or a counsellor telling you that you are not a monster helps, and it only takes you so far. The shame usually sits with one particular person, and it eases most when that person hears the thing and stays.

So aim a disclosure carefully rather than widely. Choose the person the shame is actually about, pick a moment with room in it, and say the small…

Twenty minutesShameEmotionally focusedQur’an 66:8

There is more about low mood and hard feelings than the practices: the low mood and hard feelings area has the themes and the courses too.