Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

2 practices

Shame Five minutes Under stress Clear all

How long you have · Five minutes

A minute 3 Five minutes 2 Twenty minutes 3

Who it is written for

A practitioner 2 Someone I care about 1 My husband or wife 1 Me 1

On your own, or with someone

On my own 1 Both of us together 1

Theme · Shame

Touch and bodywork 17 Grounding and settling 15 Your nervous system 13 The moment before you snap 10 Cool the body first 8 Feelings and focus 8 Breathing 8 Feeling from the inside 7 When anger turns to harm 6 Staying regulated in conflict 6 The fear underneath anger 5 Tolerate distress 5 Choosing your response 5 Breaking the worry loop 5 What anger actually is 4 Equanimity and perspective 4 The cost of avoiding 4 Moving your body 4 Medication and how it works 4 Getting assessed and diagnosed 3 Listening and understanding 3 Posture and how you carry yourself 3 What worry does 3 Question the thought 3 Facing it a step at a time 3 Obsessions and compulsions 3 Systems for daily life 2 Exercise, food and other supports 2 Practising under provocation 2 Screens and attention 2 Self-compassion 2 Shame 2 Shame and stigma 2 Structure and routine 2 When everything feels flat 2 Treatment and medication 2 Knowing your partner 2 Get started 2 Growing empathy 2 When you use something to cope 2 Working with anger 1 Letting it out safely 1 What you are actually defending 1 Rest and pacing 1 Emotions as signals 1 Food, caffeine and fuel 1 Your sense of time 1 Rebuild trust 1 Righteous anger and perfectionism 1 Making it stick 1 Let the wave come 1 Calm the body 1

Approach

Emotionally focused 1 Trauma informed 1

When · Under stress

Any ordinary day 3 Under stress 2 After a row 2

Shame does something cruel. It makes you want to disappear from the very person whose warmth would settle it, so if you notice yourself going quiet and pulling back, that pull is the shame talking rather than the truth about you.

Watch for the small retreats. Not answering a message, keeping an answer short, changing the subject when someone asks how you are. You do not have…

Five minutesShameEmotionally focusedQur’an 39:53

If you can see shame arriving in someone, say so gently and make it welcome. Something like: it looks like there is some shame here, and it is alright that it came.

Naming it does the opposite of exposing it. Left unnamed it works away in private, and the person assumes you have noticed and are judging. Said out…

Five minutesShameTrauma informedQur’an 3:135

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