Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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2 practicesHow long you have · A minute
Who it is written for
Where you are right now
Theme · Question the thought
The moment before you snap 22Cool the body first 21Choosing your response 21What anger actually is 16Grounding and settling 15The fear underneath anger 13Staying regulated in conflict 12Equanimity and perspective 10Your nervous system 9Answering bids 8Affection and touch 6Practising under provocation 6Touch and bodywork 5Feelings and focus 4What you are actually defending 4Tolerate distress 4Making it stick 4Bringing the future closer 4When everything feels flat 3Name what you feel 3Knowing your partner 3Safety and grounding 3The cost of avoiding 3Treatment and medication 3What worry does 3Shame 3Shame and stigma 2Being seen and judged 2Breathing 2Calm the body 2Food, caffeine and fuel 2Emotions as signals 2Feeling from the inside 2Let the wave come 2Meaning after harm 2Patience and trust 2Question the thought 2Ride the urge 2Righteous anger and perfectionism 2Working with anger 2Validate yourself and others 1What ADHD actually is 1Shared spiritual life 1Act on your values 1Your sense of time 1Your window of tolerance 1Care for yourself in loss 1Breaking the worry loop 1Repair after rupture 1Rebuild trust 1Posture and how you carry yourself 1Panic and the body 1Obsessions and compulsions 1Medication and how it works 1Listen to the body 1Getting assessed and diagnosed 1Facing it a step at a time 1Letting it out safely 1Growing empathy 1Systems for daily life 1Treatment and medication 1
When · Under stress
Notice when you have jumped to the worst story, and hold it as a guess, not a fact.
They meant to hurt me, this always happens. Label these as theories, then look for evidence.
Some thoughts you could defend all day, and debating whether they are true only gives them more of your time. Try a different question: is this thought kind to me, and does it take me anywhere I want to go?
This one earns its place when you have already proved the case to yourself and feel worse for having done it. You are not conceding the thought is…
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