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Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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223 practices

Coping, mostly Under stress Clear all

Area

Anger 91 Your marriage 45 Your body 24 Low mood and hard feelings 24 Focus, starting, and ADHD 15 After harm 9 Worry and anxiety 8 Grief and loss 6 Yourself and your limits 1

How long you have

A minute 146Five minutes 66 Twenty minutes 9 Longer 2

Who it is written for

Me 199A practitioner 141Someone I care about 86 My husband or wife 54

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Struggling right now 294Coping, mostly 223Getting ready for something 7

On your own, or with someone

On my own 164Involves someone else 50 Both of us together 9

Theme

Staying regulated in conflict 20 Choosing your response 17 The moment before you snap 14 The fear underneath anger 14 Cool the body first 12 Your nervous system 11 Answering bids 9 What anger actually is 8 Equanimity and perspective 8 Feelings and focus 8 Touch and bodywork 7 Affection and touch 6 Knowing your partner 5 Practising under provocation 4 Making it stick 4 Tolerate distress 4 Getting assessed and diagnosed 4 What you are actually defending 4 Facing it a step at a time 4 Calm the body 3 Safety and grounding 3 Name what you feel 3 Listening and understanding 3 Let the wave come 3 Working with anger 3 When anger turns to harm 3 Question the thought 2 Patience and trust 2 Meaning after harm 2 When everything feels flat 2 The cost of avoiding 2 Grounding and settling 2 Feeling from the inside 2 Emotions as signals 2 Righteous anger and perfectionism 2 Ride the urge 2 Rebuild trust 2 Shared spiritual life 1 Validate yourself and others 1 Shame 1 Act on your values 1 Your window of tolerance 1 What worry does 1 Growing empathy 1 Shame and stigma 1 Repair after rupture 1 Obsessions and compulsions 1 Bringing the future closer 1 Medication and how it works 1 Food, caffeine and fuel 1 When you use something to cope 1 Breathing 1 Listen to the body 1 Care for yourself in loss 1

Approach

Core 68 Mindfulness 31 Body based 29 Emotionally focused 24 Gottman 18 CBT 14 ADHD skills 12 Trauma informed 10 Grief 6 DBT skills 5 Medical and treatment 5 Parts work 1

When · Under stress

Any ordinary day 1296Under stress 223After a row 131In a change 37 Coming and going 26 When apart 6 Something good 6

Not all stillness is the same. One kind is braced and wide awake. The other has gone soft and far away.

In the braced kind there is high alertness and a lot of held tension: jaw set, hands tight, everything ready. In the collapsed kind the tone drops…

Five minutesYour nervous systemBody basedQur’an 6:125

Thinking about a feeling tends to slow it down. Feeling it in your body tends to speed it up. Between those two you have a throttle.

When someone is flooded, moving to words, naming and a little distance brings it down. When someone is flat and describing their week from behind…

Five minutesYour nervous systemBody basedQur’an 73:6

Wanting sugar, salt and something sharp at the end of a punishing week is physiology talking, not a defect in your character.

Long stretches of high stress come with real bodily consequences, and a shifted appetite is one of the visible ones. Fighting the craving head on…

Five minutesYour nervous systemMedical and treatmentQur’an 106:4

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