Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
2 practicesHow long you have
Where you are right now · Coping, mostly
Theme · Question the thought
Staying regulated in conflict 20Choosing your response 17The moment before you snap 14The fear underneath anger 14Cool the body first 12Your nervous system 11Answering bids 9What anger actually is 8Equanimity and perspective 8Feelings and focus 8Touch and bodywork 7Affection and touch 6Knowing your partner 5Practising under provocation 4Tolerate distress 4What you are actually defending 4Facing it a step at a time 4Getting assessed and diagnosed 4Making it stick 4Safety and grounding 3When anger turns to harm 3Calm the body 3Let the wave come 3Listening and understanding 3Name what you feel 3Working with anger 3Question the thought 2Ride the urge 2Righteous anger and perfectionism 2Patience and trust 2Meaning after harm 2When everything feels flat 2The cost of avoiding 2Grounding and settling 2Feeling from the inside 2Emotions as signals 2Rebuild trust 2Validate yourself and others 1Breathing 1What worry does 1Food, caffeine and fuel 1Your window of tolerance 1When you use something to cope 1Listen to the body 1Repair after rupture 1Care for yourself in loss 1Bringing the future closer 1Act on your values 1Shame 1Shame and stigma 1Shared spiritual life 1Growing empathy 1Obsessions and compulsions 1Medication and how it works 1
When · Under stress
Notice when you have jumped to the worst story, and hold it as a guess, not a fact.
They meant to hurt me, this always happens. Label these as theories, then look for evidence.
Name one hard thing today and ask what it might be growing in you: patience, humility, nearness to God.
Not denying the difficulty. Finding the meaning inside it that makes it bearable.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.