Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

3 practices

When anger turns to harm Struggling right now Under stress Clear all

Who it is written for

A practitioner 3 Someone I care about 3 Me 1

Where you are right now · Struggling right now

Struggling right now 3 Coping, mostly 3

On your own, or with someone

Both of us together 2 On my own 1

Theme · When anger turns to harm

Grounding and settling 28 Cool the body first 19 The moment before you snap 18 Touch and bodywork 15 Your nervous system 13 What anger actually is 12 Choosing your response 11 Breathing 9 Systems for daily life 9 Feelings and focus 8 Screens and attention 8 Moving your body 8 The cost of avoiding 8 Feeling from the inside 7 Shame 7 Medication and how it works 7 Breaking the worry loop 6 Equanimity and perspective 6 What worry does 6 Tolerate distress 5 Treatment and medication 5 Bringing the future closer 5 Shame and stigma 5 When everything feels flat 4 The fear underneath anger 4 Food, caffeine and fuel 4 Letting it out safely 4 Get started 4 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 When anger turns to harm 3 Being seen and judged 3 Obsessions and compulsions 3 Exercise, food and other supports 3 Emotions as signals 3 Growing empathy 3 Getting assessed and diagnosed 3 Question the thought 3 Structure and routine 2 Your sense of time 2 Self-compassion 2 Practising under provocation 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Making it stick 2 Righteous anger and perfectionism 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Remembering to do it 1 Facing it a step at a time 1 What ADHD actually is 1 Rest and pacing 1 When you use something to cope 1 Panic and the body 1 What you are actually defending 1

When · Under stress

Under stress 3 After a row 1

Hurting yourself is not always about coping. Sometimes it is aimed at somebody else, and until you know which it is you cannot know what would help.

This is uncomfortable to ask about and it is not an accusation. An act can be a way through an unbearable hour, or a message to someone who has…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 2:231

Before anything else, take seriously what self-injury is doing for a person. Pain in the body can be easier to hold than pain in the mind, and a hurt you chose yourself can feel like control coming back.

There are other honest reasons too. It can switch the world off for a while, or hold up a kind of armour: nobody can hurt me worse than I already do,…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 28:77

See what you made me do to myself. When self-harm is carrying a message like that, naming the message is not dismissing it, it is looking for the thing that could be said instead.

The question can be asked kindly and straight. Do you ever get angry enough with them to want to hurt yourself so that they feel it. People often say…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 42:40

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