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Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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3 practices

Emotions as signals Struggling right now Under stress Clear all

How long you have

Five minutes 1 Twenty minutes 2

Who it is written for

A practitioner 3 My husband or wife 3 Me 2

Where you are right now · Struggling right now

Struggling right now 3 Coping, mostly 2

On your own, or with someone

On my own 2 Both of us together 1

Theme · Emotions as signals

Grounding and settling 28 Cool the body first 19 The moment before you snap 18 Touch and bodywork 15 Your nervous system 13 What anger actually is 12 Choosing your response 11 Breathing 9 Systems for daily life 9 Screens and attention 8 The cost of avoiding 8 Moving your body 8 Feelings and focus 8 Medication and how it works 7 Shame 7 Feeling from the inside 7 What worry does 6 Equanimity and perspective 6 Breaking the worry loop 6 Tolerate distress 5 Treatment and medication 5 Shame and stigma 5 Bringing the future closer 5 The fear underneath anger 4 Letting it out safely 4 When everything feels flat 4 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Get started 4 Food, caffeine and fuel 4 When anger turns to harm 3 Being seen and judged 3 Emotions as signals 3 Growing empathy 3 Getting assessed and diagnosed 3 Obsessions and compulsions 3 Exercise, food and other supports 3 Question the thought 3 Structure and routine 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Making it stick 2 Your sense of time 2 Self-compassion 2 Practising under provocation 2 Facing it a step at a time 1 When you use something to cope 1 What you are actually defending 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 What ADHD actually is 1 Righteous anger and perfectionism 1 Rest and pacing 1 Remembering to do it 1 Panic and the body 1

When · Under stress

Under stress 3 Any ordinary day 3 After a row 3 When apart 1

If the size of the feeling does not match the size of what just happened, it is probably carrying something older into the room.

Feeling has no real sense of when. An old injury arrives in the present body with all its original force, which is why a small remark can flatten…

Five minutesEmotions as signalsEmotionally focusedQur’an 12:84

Going deeper into a feeling only helps if it is being put in order at the same time. Depth without order is just flooding.

So as the feeling rises, keep laying it out: this is what happened, this is what my body did, this is what I was afraid it meant. If your chest is…

Twenty minutesEmotions as signalsEmotionally focusedQur’an 3:154

When you are trying to reach a feeling, stay with the actual sentence that caused it rather than paraphrasing it into something milder.

She said you are too difficult. Said again, gently, it keeps the moment alive in the room instead of turning it into a memory being reported.…

Twenty minutesEmotions as signalsEmotionally focusedQur’an 15:97

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