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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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6 practices
Affection and touch remove filterUnder stress remove filterClear all
Who it is written for
Me 6My husband or wife 6
On your own, or with someone
Involves someone else 5On my own 1
Theme · Affection and touch
The moment before you snap 32Cool the body first 31Grounding and settling 30Choosing your response 28Your nervous system 24Touch and bodywork 22Staying regulated in conflict 20What anger actually is 20The fear underneath anger 18Feelings and focus 16Equanimity and perspective 15Tolerate distress 11The cost of avoiding 10Breathing 10Feeling from the inside 9Answering bids 9Systems for daily life 9Shame 8Medication and how it works 8Moving your body 8Practising under provocation 8Screens and attention 8Getting assessed and diagnosed 7What worry does 7Affection and touch 6When anger turns to harm 6Bringing the future closer 6Shame and stigma 6Breaking the worry loop 6Making it stick 6When everything feels flat 6Treatment and medication 5Question the thought 5What you are actually defending 5Emotions as signals 5Food, caffeine and fuel 5Knowing your partner 5Facing it a step at a time 5Posture and how you carry yourself 4Growing empathy 4Letting it out safely 4Get started 4Obsessions and compulsions 4Let the wave come 3Listening and understanding 3Name what you feel 3Exercise, food and other supports 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3Working with anger 3Being seen and judged 3Calm the body 3Safety and grounding 3Your sense of time 2Self-compassion 2Structure and routine 2Ride the urge 2Treatment and medication 2Rebuild trust 2Patience and trust 2Meaning after harm 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2When you use something to cope 2Remembering to do it 1Repair after rupture 1Rest and pacing 1What ADHD actually is 1Listen to the body 1Validate yourself and others 1Shared spiritual life 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Your window of tolerance 1Act on your values 1Care for yourself in loss 1Panic and the body 1
Approach
Emotionally focused 5Core 1
When · Under stress
Any ordinary day 7Under stress 6After a row 1Coming and going 1

When your spouse is hurting today, be the place they come to, not one more thing to manage.

Move toward the pain, not away. A hand, a nearness, a steady I am here.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 9:40

When fear or hurt makes you want to hide today, reach for your spouse instead.

The instinct is to withdraw. Do the opposite: move toward, take a hand, let them in.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 9:40

When your spouse reaches today, respond with tenderness before anything else.

Not advice, not a fix. First a soft word or a warm hand, then the rest.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 3:159

When your spouse is overwhelmed today, sit close and let your calm steady them.

You do not have to fix it. A steady body beside a flooded one helps it settle.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 9:40

Let your presence be the place your spouse can fall apart safely today.

No performance required with you. Make your nearness the one place they can just be.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 2:187

When they are upset, move physically closer before you say anything.

Nearness often comforts before any words can, and asks nothing in return.

A minuteAffection and touchCoreQur’an 30:21

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