Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Getting assessed and diagnosed Under stress Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 3 Twenty minutes 2 Longer 1

Who it is written for

A practitioner 7 Me 4 Someone I care about 2

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 4 Struggling right now 3

On your own, or with someone

Both of us together 3 Involves someone else 2 On my own 2

Theme · Getting assessed and diagnosed

The moment before you snap 32 Cool the body first 31 Grounding and settling 30 Choosing your response 28 Your nervous system 24 Touch and bodywork 22 What anger actually is 20 Staying regulated in conflict 20 The fear underneath anger 18 Feelings and focus 16 Equanimity and perspective 15 Tolerate distress 11 The cost of avoiding 10 Breathing 10 Feeling from the inside 9 Answering bids 9 Systems for daily life 9 Shame 8 Practising under provocation 8 Medication and how it works 8 Moving your body 8 Screens and attention 8 What worry does 7 Getting assessed and diagnosed 7 Bringing the future closer 6 Affection and touch 6 Making it stick 6 When anger turns to harm 6 Breaking the worry loop 6 When everything feels flat 6 Shame and stigma 6 What you are actually defending 5 Question the thought 5 Knowing your partner 5 Treatment and medication 5 Facing it a step at a time 5 Emotions as signals 5 Food, caffeine and fuel 5 Letting it out safely 4 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Get started 4 Growing empathy 4 Obsessions and compulsions 4 Being seen and judged 3 Listening and understanding 3 Calm the body 3 Let the wave come 3 Exercise, food and other supports 3 Working with anger 3 Name what you feel 3 Safety and grounding 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 3 Your sense of time 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Meaning after harm 2 Treatment and medication 2 When you use something to cope 2 Patience and trust 2 Structure and routine 2 Ride the urge 2 Rebuild trust 2 Self-compassion 2 Shared spiritual life 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Listen to the body 1 Panic and the body 1 Remembering to do it 1 Repair after rupture 1 Rest and pacing 1 Act on your values 1 Validate yourself and others 1 What ADHD actually is 1 Your window of tolerance 1

Approach

ADHD skills 6 Core 1

When · Under stress

Any ordinary day 64 Coming and going 14 Under stress 7 In a change 6 After a row 2

When someone says their heart races on their medication, ask whether it ever did before they started. It is the cheapest question you have and it usually sorts the answer out.

Go looking for the old settings: waiting to be called on in class, standing outside a room before a difficult conversation, three in the morning with…

A minuteGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 2:32

Very sweet, very salty, very fatty food acts on the reward system in a way that has more in common with a drug than with dinner. Reaching for it when you are flat is self-medication, not greed.

Knowing that changes what you do about it. Counting calories and resolving to try harder both aim at willpower, which was never the mechanism in the…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 39:53

With gambling machines the pull may be the lights and the noise as much as the chance of winning. That changes what you actually need to stay away from.

If the sensory buzz is doing the work, the triggers are not only the betting shop. They are the phone games built with the same flashing and chiming,…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 16:43

Expect more anxiety, low mood, drinking and drug use in the young people coming through now. And expect the boys to say less about it, so go looking for irritability, trouble and substances instead of waiting to be told.

Ask parents what they are seeing rather than only what they have been told, and ask the young person directly and privately. Screening that rests on…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedCoreQur’an 21:83

Attention and impulse problems that appear for the first time in middle age or later are not ADHD arriving late. They need a doctor to look, not a prescription.

Several conditions affecting the frontal lobes can show up first as new disinhibition, poor judgement or a change in personality, and some are…

Twenty minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 21:7

Ask for the most frightening moment of their life, then the next one down, then the next, until there is a scale running from one to a hundred. You get the ladder you needed, and they get something they did not expect: fear comes in sizes.

Do it slowly and write it in their words rather than yours. Most people arrive believing anxiety is one solid block that either has hold of them or…

Twenty minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 21:83

When a child with attention difficulties is also at war with every instruction, that pairing is worth taking to someone early rather than waiting to see whether it settles.

The two travel together often, and a minority of children follow a path from constant defiance into more serious trouble later. Every stage of that…

LongerGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 2:216

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