Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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6 practices
How long you have
Who it is written for
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone
Theme · When everything feels flat
The moment before you snap 32Cool the body first 31Grounding and settling 30Choosing your response 28Your nervous system 24Touch and bodywork 22Staying regulated in conflict 20What anger actually is 20The fear underneath anger 18Feelings and focus 16Equanimity and perspective 15Tolerate distress 11Breathing 10The cost of avoiding 10Feeling from the inside 9Answering bids 9Systems for daily life 9Shame 8Screens and attention 8Practising under provocation 8Medication and how it works 8Moving your body 8What worry does 7Getting assessed and diagnosed 7When everything feels flat 6Affection and touch 6When anger turns to harm 6Bringing the future closer 6Making it stick 6Shame and stigma 6Breaking the worry loop 6What you are actually defending 5Knowing your partner 5Food, caffeine and fuel 5Question the thought 5Emotions as signals 5Treatment and medication 5Facing it a step at a time 5Letting it out safely 4Obsessions and compulsions 4Growing empathy 4Posture and how you carry yourself 4Get started 4Working with anger 3Calm the body 3Let the wave come 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3Listening and understanding 3Being seen and judged 3Safety and grounding 3Name what you feel 3Exercise, food and other supports 3Treatment and medication 2Ride the urge 2Self-compassion 2Your sense of time 2Structure and routine 2Patience and trust 2Meaning after harm 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2When you use something to cope 2Rebuild trust 2Anger, alcohol and the body 1Your window of tolerance 1What ADHD actually is 1Validate yourself and others 1Repair after rupture 1Panic and the body 1Shared spiritual life 1Remembering to do it 1Care for yourself in loss 1Listen to the body 1Act on your values 1Rest and pacing 1
Approach
When · Under stress

If a medicine leaves you wired, restless or with a pulse that will not settle, report it rather than tolerating it quietly.

The antidepressants that act on noradrenaline as well as serotonin can raise blood pressure and put nerves on edge, and with some of them that grows…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 13:28

Try putting a sentence between you and the mood: this is what my brain is doing right now. It does not make me a bad person, and it does not mean I cannot cope. It just feels that way today.

Low mood does not arrive labelled as a mood. It arrives as facts about you, that you are useless, that nobody wants you around, and it is very hard…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatParts workQur’an 93:3

When someone tells you they have been hurting themselves, keep your face steady and stay curious. Alarm closes the conversation, and you need it open.

A visible flinch teaches the person that this is not something you can hear, and the next disclosure goes elsewhere or nowhere. It can also make the…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatParts workQur’an 16:127

A medicine that lifts drive is not the same as one that settles anxiety, and for some people the energising kind makes the worry louder.

Bupropion is the clearest example: often good for flatness and lack of motivation, often unhelpful on its own when anxiety and a racing, sleepless…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 8:24

Put something in before you take something out. Removing the only way a person has of coping leaves them with nothing, which is not safer.

In practice this looks like smaller steps than a promise to stop: cutting the frequency, changing what is used, agreeing to wait ten minutes and do…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatParts workQur’an 65:7

Six to eight weeks is what an antidepressant needs before it can be judged. The first fortnight will mostly tell you about side effects.

The transporter is blocked within hours, so the delay belongs to slower changes further down the line. In practice that means picking a date four to…

LongerWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:110

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