Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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24 practices
How long you have · A minute
Who it is written for
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Systems for daily life
Staying regulated in conflict 46The moment before you snap 39Choosing your response 36Cool the body first 34Grounding and settling 28What anger actually is 26Your nervous system 25Medication and how it works 25Systems for daily life 24Bringing the future closer 22Answering bids 22The fear underneath anger 22Get started 20Treatment and medication 18Equanimity and perspective 17Your sense of time 17Structure and routine 16Fondness and admiration 15Affection and touch 14Growing empathy 14Practising under provocation 14Making it stick 14Knowing your partner 14Repair after rupture 13Touch and bodywork 13Feelings and focus 12Food, caffeine and fuel 11Getting assessed and diagnosed 11Moving your body 9When everything feels flat 9The cost of avoiding 9Gratitude 9Exercise, food and other supports 9Breathing 9What ADHD actually is 8Listening and understanding 8Being seen and judged 8Tolerate distress 8Treatment and medication 8Screens and attention 7Remembering to do it 7Shame and stigma 6What you are actually defending 6Shared spiritual life 6Rituals of connection 6What worry does 6Feeling from the inside 5Shame 5Posture and how you carry yourself 5Rebuilding trust 5Emotions as signals 5Self-compassion 4Question the thought 4Obsessions and compulsions 3When you use something to cope 3Safety and grounding 3Name what you feel 3Facing it a step at a time 3When anger turns to harm 2Notice the pattern and flex 2Panic and the body 2Patience and trust 2Meaning after harm 2Ride the urge 2Righteous anger and perfectionism 2Let the wave come 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Validate yourself and others 2Working with anger 2Breaking the worry loop 2Your worth is not conditional 2Hold a boundary 2Calm the body 2Face it gently 1Letting it out safely 1Get it out of your head 1Help someone grieving 1Your window of tolerance 1Care for yourself in loss 1When you go numb 1Keep the bond 1Listen to the body 1Rest and pacing 1Ask and say no well 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Act on your values 1
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Score each target from one to five rather than done or not done, and have the teacher say a word about it and initial the sheet before the child leaves the room.

Half the work finished earns a three. That matters enormously for a child whose usual score would be nothing at all, because a pass or fail sheet…

A minuteSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 84:19

Let the child score themselves on the same sheet the teacher scores. Two columns, filled in separately, then looked at together.

At first the two columns can be miles apart, and that is the useful bit rather than a problem. Nobody is being caught out. Over the weeks the gap…

A minuteSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 10:61

Before anything else, check the child actually knows what the homework is. Most homework goes missing at that first step, not at the effort step.

It might be on the board, on the school portal or in the planner with the teacher having glanced at it, and any of those is fine as long as it can be…

A minuteSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 20:114

Print the agreement out and stick it up where the child will see it. In a drawer it may as well not exist.

The moment that matters is the one where the console is right there and the maths is not started, and nothing you agreed a fortnight ago is in the…

A minuteSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 68:1

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