Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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3 practices

Question the thought A minute Coping, mostly Clear all

How long you have · A minute

A minute 3 Five minutes 1 Longer 1

Who it is written for

Me 3 A practitioner 1

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Coping, mostly 3 Struggling right now 1

Theme · Question the thought

Staying regulated in conflict 46 Choosing your response 25 Answering bids 22 The fear underneath anger 18 Medication and how it works 18 Bringing the future closer 17 The moment before you snap 17 Fondness and admiration 15 Your nervous system 15 Affection and touch 14 Equanimity and perspective 14 Knowing your partner 14 Get started 13 Repair after rupture 13 What anger actually is 13 Systems for daily life 13 Cool the body first 12 Growing empathy 12 Your sense of time 12 Treatment and medication 11 Structure and routine 10 Grounding and settling 9 Gratitude 9 Feelings and focus 8 Listening and understanding 8 When everything feels flat 8 Moving your body 7 Getting assessed and diagnosed 7 Rituals of connection 6 Making it stick 6 Exercise, food and other supports 6 Remembering to do it 6 Shared spiritual life 6 Touch and bodywork 6 Rebuilding trust 5 Emotions as signals 5 Screens and attention 5 Being seen and judged 5 What you are actually defending 5 Food, caffeine and fuel 4 Tolerate distress 4 Treatment and medication 4 Breathing 4 Practising under provocation 4 Shame and stigma 4 When you use something to cope 3 Safety and grounding 3 What ADHD actually is 3 Self-compassion 3 Name what you feel 3 What worry does 3 The cost of avoiding 3 Question the thought 3 Notice the pattern and flex 2 Patience and trust 2 Let the wave come 2 Ride the urge 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Shame 2 Hold a boundary 2 When anger turns to harm 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Working with anger 2 Your worth is not conditional 2 Facing it a step at a time 2 Calm the body 2 Meaning after harm 2 Obsessions and compulsions 2 Feeling from the inside 1 Panic and the body 1 Face it gently 1 Keep the bond 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Act on your values 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Listen to the body 1 Get it out of your head 1 Help someone grieving 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Righteous anger and perfectionism 1 Breaking the worry loop 1 Ask and say no well 1

Approach

Core 2 CBT 1

When

Any ordinary day 2 Under stress 1

Take the thought that is upsetting you and ask: what is another way to read this?

The event is fixed; the meaning is not. A second reading often fits the facts and hurts less.

A minuteQuestion the thoughtCoreQur’an 2:216

Notice when you have jumped to the worst story, and hold it as a guess, not a fact.

They meant to hurt me, this always happens. Label these as theories, then look for evidence.

A minuteQuestion the thoughtCoreQur’an 49:12

At the end of a stretch of thinking like this, ask yourself plainly what you believe about yourself now, and how that differs from an hour ago.

Shifts that go unnamed tend to have evaporated by the evening. Saying the new version aloud, or writing a single sentence of it, turns it into…

A minuteQuestion the thoughtCBTQur’an 13:11

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.