Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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4 practices

Shame and stigma A minute Coping, mostly Clear all

How long you have · A minute

A minute 4 Five minutes 6 Twenty minutes 2 Longer 2

Who it is written for

A practitioner 4 Me 4 Someone I care about 3

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Coping, mostly 4 Struggling right now 2

Theme · Shame and stigma

Staying regulated in conflict 46 Choosing your response 25 Answering bids 22 The fear underneath anger 18 Medication and how it works 18 The moment before you snap 17 Bringing the future closer 17 Fondness and admiration 15 Your nervous system 15 Knowing your partner 14 Affection and touch 14 Equanimity and perspective 14 What anger actually is 13 Systems for daily life 13 Get started 13 Repair after rupture 13 Cool the body first 12 Your sense of time 12 Growing empathy 12 Treatment and medication 11 Structure and routine 10 Gratitude 9 Grounding and settling 9 Feelings and focus 8 When everything feels flat 8 Listening and understanding 8 Getting assessed and diagnosed 7 Moving your body 7 Exercise, food and other supports 6 Making it stick 6 Remembering to do it 6 Rituals of connection 6 Shared spiritual life 6 Touch and bodywork 6 Emotions as signals 5 Being seen and judged 5 What you are actually defending 5 Screens and attention 5 Rebuilding trust 5 Treatment and medication 4 Shame and stigma 4 Breathing 4 Food, caffeine and fuel 4 Practising under provocation 4 Tolerate distress 4 Safety and grounding 3 The cost of avoiding 3 Self-compassion 3 What ADHD actually is 3 Question the thought 3 What worry does 3 Name what you feel 3 When you use something to cope 3 Obsessions and compulsions 2 Patience and trust 2 Ride the urge 2 Let the wave come 2 Shame 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 When anger turns to harm 2 Hold a boundary 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Working with anger 2 Your worth is not conditional 2 Facing it a step at a time 2 Calm the body 2 Meaning after harm 2 Notice the pattern and flex 2 Feeling from the inside 1 Act on your values 1 Face it gently 1 Keep the bond 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Ask and say no well 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Panic and the body 1 Help someone grieving 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Righteous anger and perfectionism 1 Breaking the worry loop 1 Listen to the body 1 Get it out of your head 1

When

Any ordinary day 3 Under stress 1

ADD and ADHD are not two different things. ADD is the older public word for what is now called ADHD, inattentive type, and the quieter presentation is not a lighter version of it.

The mix up matters more than it sounds. Parents sometimes hear ADD and take it to mean something mild that will not need treatment, and school or…

A minuteShame and stigmaADHD skillsQur’an 33:5

Manuals rename things. Paediatric bipolar became disruptive mood dysregulation disorder, whole categories were reshuffled to line up with the international classification, and none of it changed who anybody was.

If you have old paperwork carrying a label nobody uses now, that is bookkeeping rather than a hidden verdict on you. What is worth your attention is…

A minuteShame and stigmaADHD skillsQur’an 17:84

Some people will not believe this exists whatever you show them. You are allowed to give a short honest answer and then let the conversation go.

Keep one or two plain facts ready for people who are genuinely curious, because that conversation is often worth having. It is a different…

A minuteShame and stigmaADHD skillsQur’an 16:125

Talking a lot is on the diagnostic list. It sits with the impulsive symptoms, which makes it part of the condition rather than proof that you are self absorbed.

That reframe is worth having, because most people who do this have been told off for it for years and have drawn an unkind conclusion about…

A minuteShame and stigmaADHD skillsQur’an 48:17

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