Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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Theme · Validate yourself and others
Staying regulated in conflict 46Choosing your response 25Answering bids 22The fear underneath anger 18Medication and how it works 18Bringing the future closer 17The moment before you snap 17Fondness and admiration 15Your nervous system 15Affection and touch 14Knowing your partner 14Equanimity and perspective 14What anger actually is 13Get started 13Systems for daily life 13Repair after rupture 13Your sense of time 12Cool the body first 12Growing empathy 12Treatment and medication 11Structure and routine 10Gratitude 9Grounding and settling 9When everything feels flat 8Feelings and focus 8Listening and understanding 8Getting assessed and diagnosed 7Moving your body 7Remembering to do it 6Rituals of connection 6Making it stick 6Touch and bodywork 6Exercise, food and other supports 6Shared spiritual life 6Being seen and judged 5Rebuilding trust 5What you are actually defending 5Emotions as signals 5Screens and attention 5Treatment and medication 4Food, caffeine and fuel 4Breathing 4Tolerate distress 4Shame and stigma 4Practising under provocation 4Self-compassion 3When you use something to cope 3What ADHD actually is 3The cost of avoiding 3Name what you feel 3Question the thought 3What worry does 3Safety and grounding 3Ride the urge 2When anger turns to harm 2Calm the body 2Facing it a step at a time 2Hold a boundary 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Let the wave come 2Meaning after harm 2Notice the pattern and flex 2Obsessions and compulsions 2Patience and trust 2Shame 2Validate yourself and others 2Working with anger 2Your worth is not conditional 2Your window of tolerance 1Ask and say no well 1Breaking the worry loop 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Panic and the body 1Listen to the body 1Keep the bond 1Help someone grieving 1Get it out of your head 1Feeling from the inside 1Face it gently 1Care for yourself in loss 1Righteous anger and perfectionism 1Act on your values 1
Before you fix or argue, validate: that makes sense, I can see why you feel that. It cools the heat.
People calm down when they feel understood, not corrected. Understanding first, solutions later.
Validate your own feeling first: of course this stung. You do not need permission to feel it.
Do not add self-blame on top of a hard feeling. Let it be real, then decide what to do.
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