Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

11 practices
How long you have · A minute
Who it is written for
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Food, caffeine and fuel
Staying regulated in conflict 46The moment before you snap 39Choosing your response 36Cool the body first 34Grounding and settling 28What anger actually is 26Medication and how it works 25Your nervous system 25Systems for daily life 24Answering bids 22The fear underneath anger 22Bringing the future closer 22Get started 20Treatment and medication 18Equanimity and perspective 17Your sense of time 17Structure and routine 16Fondness and admiration 15Knowing your partner 14Affection and touch 14Growing empathy 14Making it stick 14Practising under provocation 14Touch and bodywork 13Repair after rupture 13Feelings and focus 12Getting assessed and diagnosed 11Food, caffeine and fuel 11Gratitude 9When everything feels flat 9Moving your body 9The cost of avoiding 9Exercise, food and other supports 9Breathing 9What ADHD actually is 8Treatment and medication 8Being seen and judged 8Tolerate distress 8Listening and understanding 8Remembering to do it 7Screens and attention 7Rituals of connection 6What you are actually defending 6What worry does 6Shame and stigma 6Shared spiritual life 6Posture and how you carry yourself 5Shame 5Emotions as signals 5Feeling from the inside 5Rebuilding trust 5Self-compassion 4Question the thought 4Obsessions and compulsions 3Facing it a step at a time 3Name what you feel 3Safety and grounding 3When you use something to cope 3Panic and the body 2When anger turns to harm 2Calm the body 2Hold a boundary 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Let the wave come 2Meaning after harm 2Notice the pattern and flex 2Patience and trust 2Ride the urge 2Righteous anger and perfectionism 2Validate yourself and others 2Working with anger 2Breaking the worry loop 2Your worth is not conditional 2Your window of tolerance 1Rest and pacing 1Act on your values 1When you go numb 1Listen to the body 1Keep the bond 1Help someone grieving 1Get it out of your head 1Face it gently 1Letting it out safely 1Care for yourself in loss 1Ask and say no well 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1
When

The pull towards bread, pasta and biscuits when you are low is not simply greed. Carbohydrate makes it easier for the brain to get hold of the raw material it needs for serotonin, so it gives a real if short lived lift.

Calling it self medication instead of a failure of character changes what you do next. You stop trying to out-discipline the craving and start asking…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 52:19

Allergies turn up more often alongside ADHD than chance would predict. Worth mentioning your allergy history at an assessment even when nobody asks, since the two seem to travel together.

The likeliest explanation is not that one causes the other. It is that some of the same underlying wiring makes both more likely in the same person.…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 80:24

Some foods are formulated to be hard to stop eating. That is a design brief rather than a flaw in you, and it goes some way to explaining why one particular snack is the one you think about at eleven at night.

Knowing this moves the fight somewhere you can win it. Willpower at the moment of craving is a poor bet, and a decision made in the shop is a much…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:172

Here is a question that costs nothing: has anyone in your family been told their vitamin D was low? It runs in families through genes, skin tone, where you live and how much time anyone spends outside.

The clinician telling this story found out only afterwards that his mother, father and brother had all been low. Nobody had mentioned it, because it…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 15:22

Even where a herb has good evidence behind it, that evidence belongs to the plant and not to the bottle in your hand. Testing keeps turning up products that do not contain what the label says.

This part of the argument does not depend on whether herbal remedies work. You could accept every claim made for a plant and still be left with the…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 80:24

Own brand products from large retailers were among the worst performers in these tests. A big name on the packet is not a quality check, however much it feels like one.

Own label goods are usually made under contract on thin margins with no independent verification of what comes out the other end. So the reassurance…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:66

People often turn to herbal remedies hoping to avoid side effects. Plants are chemistry too, and some of them interact with prescribed medication in ways that matter.

A plant extract is not one substance, it is a mixture of many, which gives it more places to interact rather than fewer. Origin has nothing to do…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:69

Around seven in ten people who use herbal products never mention it to their doctor. Not out of secrecy, mostly because a tea or a gummy does not feel like it belongs on a list of medications.

The useful move is to answer a wider question than the one you were asked. When someone asks what medication you take, tell them what else you take…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 106:4

Your gut is not just plumbing. It makes many of the same chemicals your brain runs on and it is in constant conversation with your nervous system, which is part of why a bad stretch of digestion and a low mood so often turn up together.

If your stomach has been unsettled for weeks and your mood has slid over the same weeks, you do not have to work out which one is the real problem.…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:69

When you find yourself reaching for something sweet again, try asking what the reaching is doing for you instead of telling yourself off. Comfort, a small rebellion, a way to stay awake: the answer usually points somewhere useful.

Talk about being good or bad closes the conversation down. Curiosity keeps it open, and it tends to surface the actual job the food is doing, which…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:173

Put a rubber band round your water bottle for each refill you want to get through today, and slide one off each time you finish it. Nothing to remember, nothing to buy, and you can see where you are at a glance.

Tracking anything in your head is hard when your head is already full, and harder still when concentration is one of the things that has taken a hit.…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:10

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.